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10/10/2011 05:23 AM

How to deal with negative people Positively

Clarita
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How to deal with negative people Positively

Everyday we deal with a number of different people from different walks of life. However, we tend to turn our attention away when confronted with a high-intensity negative person. Here is an article to help you deal with negative people positively. Keep reading.

Tips To Deal With Negative People Positively

Make positive statements

A negative person is going to go on and on about how unfair everything is... how nothing pleases her/him... and about so many other complaints... In such cases be an active listener, irrespective of whether you absorb it or not. They want to be heard, they want to vent out their grief. Give them a patient ear, ask questions, agree with whichever points you think are legitimate and lastly, emphasize by making positive statements. How does it feel when someone tells you to relax, when you are super annoyed? Good, right? Give them that same empathetic ear. By helping them to learn to address their emotions, and find a solution for themselves.

Avoid the negative comments and stay in a positive frame of mind...

While dealing with cynical people, it is likely that you too tend to shape your perception in that direction. Don't let that happen, be firm and don't let their thoughts influence yours. Never take such people personally. Now, I know it may seem difficult, because sometimes even a abrasive person may have a valid point. But, here the point is to weigh their comments and decide for yourself, how much importance is to be given to these comments. You don't need others to tell you what you are like, however keep an open mind with a willingness to learn.

Broaden your perspective

Sometimes, some people find it comfortable to share their grief with you, however unfortunately, they may come across as negative people. Whether the person is really negative or not, ultimately you're the one who is perceiving the person as negative, make sure you have legitimate reasons to back your thinking. Broaden your perspective, probably the negativity is the product of your lens. Therefore, interpret every trait of theirs in a positive manner, or look for the goodness in him/her instead of the negativity.

Don't get into an argument with them...

The most important thing you have to learn is not to get into an argument with a negative person. At such times the negativity in them is aggravated and there is every possibility it might rub on to you. No matter how hard you try to direct the discussion in a positive way, a negative person will have strong view points to back up his stand. Avoid the arguments as far as possible, or change the subject, whichever is easy.

Praise them for their positive aspects

This is one thing that is sure to work even if the others don't. Praise them for their positive aspects. Find the silver lining in the dark cloud. While they talk to you about all the negative things in the world, make sure you understand all of it, and yet find a sunny side to it. This can be more frustrating and annoying for them. However, remember, this will mark as the first seed of positivity you are sowing in them.

Actions speak louder than words

Be an enthusiast and focus on your own positive energy. Try to influence your positivity on him/her. Look at everything positively, find goodness in all that you see and most importantly help the negative person to perceive things from your eyes. Let the positivity rub on to them. Initially it may seem really difficult, yet cultivating this skill will become your second nature.

Counter react with warmth

I firmly believe in the language of love, and that it can melt a total cynic. Usually a negative person is depressed, lonely and longing for attention. You will see a negative person constantly feels he/she is unloved and as a result craves affection. A hug, peck, or a simple smile, can break down negativity faster than words. This might also help them get to the real heart of the problem causing their negativity.

It may seem difficult for you to deal with negative people initially, however you can make the world a better place to live by working on yourself. Don't let negativity influence your mind, become self-aware and protect your positive space, let nobody intrude it.

Be an enthusiast and focus on your positive energy!

By Divya Bichu

Published: 20th September 2011

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10/10/2011 12:32 PM
PhilPhil46
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Love this one Clarita!

I work with alot of negative people, Sad it's hard to remain postiive around this daily enviornment. So I come here for my dose of postive thoughts and apply them. Listening to medtation music really helps me.

Each day we have a choice, we can be happy or unhappy. I choose to be happy regardless of my current situation or circumstances. Learned that from my Mom, she was a beautiful person inside and out. Smile


10/11/2011 12:49 AM
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Phil you are a beautiful person on the outside yet also more importantly beautiful on the inside- one of these rare amazing individuals, most definitely, so guess that makes you like your mom Winkas you said that she was like this too!

You keep being You- shining your light! Sure, it is not always easy to keep positive when we are in a negative environment whether it be in our workplace, our school or college, our home or our community or even living with chronic pains or being a carer of some kind, yet, regardless of what is happening around us we need to keep in a positive mindset/keep dynamically upbeat for our sakes yet also to be ripples of light to others too.

Yes, totally echo your words- we indeed do have a choice to be happy or unhappy.

Like You, choose to be dynamically happy regardless of pains in me or pains around me WinkSmile!

Love You Phil Smile

Gentle hugs, love your friend for always ClaritaSmile


10/11/2011 06:33 AM
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Thank you Clarita, for you kind words. Smile

Yes I do have my moms qualities and so very thankful for them.

I see the inside of a person before the outside, I have always been that way, since I was a child.

My belief is, if you are beautiful on the outside and rotten on the inside, what good is it? In friendships I also prefer quality over quantity.

Love and hugs to you My Friend.

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