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07/08/2011 08:23 AM
Clarita
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Distract Yourself in Healthy Ways~ Mike Robbins

We live in a world of distractions. All day, every day we are bombarded with opportunities to be distracted. And, as I've recently noticed about myself, many of us choose (whether we're conscious of it or not) to distract ourselves on purpose to escape from life in various ways.

Given that most of us are going to be distracted on a regular basis, consciously or unconsciously, it's important that we take a deeper look at how and why we get distracted and do what we can do to start distracting ourselves in healthy ways and for healthy reasons.

Unhealthy distraction

Due to the fact that life can get quite intense and stressful, and many of us have come up with creative ways of avoiding certain feelings, situations and activities that are challenging for us (i.e. things we're scared of or uncomfortable with), we tend to distract ourselves in various unhealthy ways.

Whether our personal version of distraction involves food, TV, alcohol, a "smart" phone, drugs, drama, confusion, over-scheduling, taking care of everyone around us, or anything else -- we often engage in unhealthy habits (like these and others), and do so for unhealthy reasons (because we don't want to stop, feel and deal with the intensity of our lives).

Healthy distraction, for unhealthy reasons

Once we become aware of our unhealthy patterns of distracting ourselves we can start to replace some of these negative behaviors with more positive ones. I like to call this "productive procrastination." Some examples:

•We reorganize our desk instead of making those scary phone calls

•We clean up the house instead of working on the creative project that we've been thinking about

•Instead of rushing to the refrigerator when we get stressed out, we head out to the gym or on a bike ride to relieve some stress

•We curl up with an inspiring book or watch a touching film that makes us feel better

These and other things can "distract" us in more positive ways and have less of a negative impact on us in the long run. However, if we engage in these "healthy" activities simply as a way to avoid dealing with our lives, avoid feeling uncomfortable emotions, or engaging in what's going on around us in an authentic way, there is still another level for us to reach.

Conscious, healthy distraction

The ultimate goal of this process is for us to be able to choose to "distract" ourselves (i.e. get out of our heads, let go of our negative worries, and take a conscious break from the day-to-day stress of life) in a truly healthy way. When our motivation is positive (we're not avoiding anything, but choosing consciously to take a break), the outcome and experience of our "distraction" is more likely to be healthy and beneficial.

If we're going to live a life of growth, meaning and fulfillment we need lots of healthy breaks and rests along the way, especially when things get hard. If we don't take these breaks, it's easy to let worry, fear, negativity, doubt and the daily pressures of life take over, almost without us even noticing.

Here's a list of some simple things you can do to "distract" yourself in a healthy way.

•Watch inspiring movies

•Meditate

•Exercise

•Walk in nature

•Sing

•Laugh

•Play with children

•Travel

•Read inspiring books

•Help others

•Paint

•Spend time with people you love

•Dance

•Take classes or workshops

•Write

•Listen to inspiring music

•Swim

•Sit and do nothing

This list could go on and on. Take a moment to reflect on these and other things that you can do that will have a positive impact on your life right now.

It's not so much what you do, but why and how you do it. When we take some time to consciously "distract" ourselves in healthy ways, we interrupt the negative, unconscious and habitual patterns of our minds and our culture that often get in the way of us experiencing the peace, joy, and abundance that is naturally and authentically around us and within us all the time.

Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach and the bestselling author of "Focus on the Good Stuff" (Wiley) and "Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken" (Wiley). More info - www.Mike-Robbins.com

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Positively distracting self right now as this batgirl is having high pains especially in legs!

May each one of you here find plenty of ways to positively distract yourself whether it be from high pains or even emotional distractions- to put self in a better place, may it be so, make it so No. 1!

Giant gentle hugs to you all, love batgirl holding on tightly with a dolphin smile SmileSilly

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07/09/2011 06:05 AM  Top
oregonnative
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Positively distracting myself right now by reading this inspiring article by the phenomenal Mike Robbins.

Distracted myself yesterday by trimming, feeding and watering my roses, and transplanting my Verbena seedlings into a nice sunny home.

Hoping everyone here finds an enjoyable and healthy distraction today, also. Smile Hugs and more hugs, Karen

Shoot for the moon...if you miss it, reach out and grab a star.
Karen

I am not a medical professional. All comments are based on my own experience and/or from articles I have read.

07/09/2011 07:01 AM  Top
RickEJ
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I too have been positively distracting myself in healthy ways. I have a lot of past trauma and even though I went through three years of therapy these intrusive thoughts persist. I did go back to my therapist last month and got my thinking back on track. So this whole month I have been practicing this and its working wonderfully. Its becoming second nature for me now. This article gave me some new info on healthy distractions. Smile

A big thank you for the post Smile

peace & hugs
Rick
If I seem confused it's because I am!
Bi-polar II,GAD,SAD,TRD
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07/09/2011 09:03 AM  Top
happycampc

Love this article, we all need a reminder sometimes about how to distract ourselves in a positive and healthy way. Today I am distracting myself by making some jelly. Missing my honey who is on a fire assignment so distracting myself in a positive way!!

07/09/2011 10:25 AM  Top
oregonnative
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Ann, you can help to distract me by promising to bring me a jar of your cherry jelly WHEN, not IF, we meet up in Grants Pass. Hopefully someday soon!! Smile And I will distract you from your missing Jim, (for a minute Tongue) then also. hugs, K P.S. I think it's time to talk.
Shoot for the moon...if you miss it, reach out and grab a star.
Karen

I am not a medical professional. All comments are based on my own experience and/or from articles I have read.

07/09/2011 04:31 PM  Top
happycampc

O.k. you got it!! But now I will tell you I made Strawberry rhubarb Jam,Cherry rhubarb and Apple Rhubarb as well!!! We have to plan that very soon. Should find out Monday when Jim will be home so maybe we can plan it in a few weeks. That will be fun!!!

Post edited by: happycampc, at: 07/09/2011 04:32 PM


07/10/2011 07:13 AM  Top
Clarita
Clarita
 
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Loved reading about everyone's groovy distractions- especially the yummy ones of Ann- can almost taste that strawberry and rhubarb jam Wink- just know it is delicious!! When come to America on vacation- will one day for sure- will try it out for self, definitely!! Have a very sweet tooth!!

Ann- sure hope Jim will be home with you soon. Please let us know when you find out when Jim will be coming back to your comfy abode!

Rick - keep up with all the good work as well as pleasant distractions, okay. Lean on this batgirl anytime ,too!!

Am distracting self right now from the fairly high pains in body, too!! Mostly distracting self with music, cross stitching, being with me boys- spending quality time with them, being here, writing, reading, as well as lots of daydreaming WinkSmile!

Will try my best to distract others from their pains, too.

Everyone here take excellent care of your fine selves please.

Big beautiful hugs, warmest wishes from batgirl Clarita SmileSilly

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