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Things are better with Alex and my treatment but work rehab is still coming along but slowly and mom is having a hard time with letting me figure it out. She wants to buy me a car because mine is broke again but she needs her money. It would be a premeditated resentment but when I talk to her about her anger and not wanting to add to it she denies she is angry. Then follows that with an angry comment about how she my car is hers and so is my son since we lived here and she paid for part of my car. I just hope I get to fix my car before she makes an ultimatum. I think it is better for me to work it out with case mgr, work rehab and Jr college auto class, what do you think?

I will talk to case mgr Tuesday, work rehab Thursday and therapist Friday.

Focusing on my goals is the most important thing right now, this means to do treatment and work rehab. I like taking the bus since I can study on the way to my appointments. I want mom to pay for her home and auto repairs instead of angrily helping me.

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Firstly, it is fantastic that your relationship with Alex is becoming better! Secondly yet equally first- treatment is progressing well for you. Thirdly yet still equally first too- your work rehab maybe coming along slowly yet you are still moving forward so try to be patient with your improvements as sometimes gradual steps in the right direction are better for us in the long run anyways- that you are on the right path is what matters, truly!!

Know it is tough yet try to talk to your mom calmy about anything be it your car or any other topic as if you let yourself get angry even if provoked then it will only play into her hands. Sometimes it is best to walk away when you feel yourself becoming cross instead of shouting back your feelings. The more calm assertive you can be the better. Not easy when someone is pushing your buttons yet you have to try to be in control in a calm assertive manner as it not only gets your point/s over more persuasively yet also makes you feel stronger(puts you in a better position). Have you tried to write a letter about how you feel about the subject? Or could you possibly even find someone to be your advocate?

You go with your instincts- you know deep inside what is the best way. Also, since you have a sound/wise therapist seek out what she thinks too as the best course of action- how to deal with your mom.

What you want sounds perfectly reasonable - believe in you, take deep breaths, be as calm as you possibly can, refuse to let your buttons be pushed and keep focused on your goals- know you will make it!!!

Truly feel you are on the right path. You will keep on becoming better, growing/blooming as an individual as well as finding more allies as you have plenty of courage plus are very likeable, for sure!!

Dealing with emotionally manipulative people is not easy- yet the stronger, calmer, more courageous as well as more balanced you are then the easier it is to deal with them.

Lean on everyone here, too, for support. Also, lean on this batgirl please- totally here for You.

Rooting massively for you, love Clarita

Thank you so much Clarita. In the past this event would have shut me down. After six months of intense therapy and working on my CBT here, the retraining in thought-behavior is showing up in my actions. I talked to my mom again so as not to let it stew, I did my best to stay to important points and talk about my feelings/needs, not blaming anyone but taking ownership of my situation. Than after that we were both tense so I told her it would be good for me to talk to my support people and then we can work something out.

Everyones input is always very helpful and as Clarita said, A boost in a positive direction

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