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davesprettylady
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So this week has been hell so far. Monday I spent the entire afternoon and evening in the ER becaues Dave's mom had a siezure. This is especially terrible for her because she has clips in her brain that hold the blood vessels closed and every time she has a siezure there is a chance that they could malfunction and she will start bleeding into her brain. Luckily she didn't, but the fact that she had a siezure at all even though she took her medication as scheduled is a problem...a big problem, because it means it could happen again. Yesterday I spent the day fighting with pharmacists and doctors trying to get her everything she needs in the hopes that it won't happen again. And this morning...my grandfather passed away. He was 85 and had severe Parkinson's Disease, so its for the best because he's not suffering anymore...but that doesn't make it hurt any less. 
On top of all that, my self-esteem has taken a huge shot. I posted on facebook that my grandfather passed away. Not one of my "friends" (keep in mind they are only people I know in real life and would consider "friends") sent their condolences. Not a single one. I'm probably just being immature and highschoolerly, but I'm hurting and this isn't helping. I feel very alone. It makes me wonder how many of my "friends" would care if I was the one that had passed away... |
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happycampc
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Hi, So sorry to hear of your grandfathers passing. I think my feelings would be hurt as well if no one I am close to acknowledged his passing. Sorry to hear that your MIL is having problems with seizures, sure hope they can get her meds regulated so it will prevent it from happening again, that is a scary things. I hope tommorrow will be a little better for you. Again sorry for your loss, even if you knew it was coming doesn't make it any easier when it happens. Hugs, Ann |
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Kimbaskicks Posts: 743
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Hi Jen! I'm so sorry for your loss! {Hugs} Saying a prayer for you and your family! I can't speak for your FB friends, but I don't sign on every day and therefore, don't get to see all of my friends' updates. Just a thought.... Hang in there....I'll be thinking about you and praying for you! ~K ~Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional!~ |
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ginaleigh
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I am also very sorry for your Grandfathers passing It will get better with time honey Praying you feel our support,and warm thoughts Hugs for you and your family Time does heal the heart |
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amazing1
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I am so sorry for your loss. |
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KimmyLyn
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Oh sweetie, so sorry to hear this news. What a week you have had to endure. I am terribly sorry for your loss, I know I dont have the words to express my deepes condolences for you, I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling. My grandpa is 94 (this saturday) and I know the loss I would feel would be to deep to describe. You are definitely in my thoughts and my prayers. May angels surround and comfort you. Also very sorry your facebook friends could not take a moment to lift you up, that I imagine was also hurtful. I do hope your mother in law will be ok and I will keep her in my prayers as well. You take some time to rest, try to, and we are all here for you. We will lift you up, just lean on us ok? hugs to you, Kim |
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Natalia5150 Posts: 3632
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oh Daves.... Oh awful for you! I am so so sorry you have had to go through so much this past week. I thought I answered you but I frequently forget to push "submit" how is that for insane fibrofog? I am so happy for you that you got to have your grandfather through your whole growing up. How beautiful and wonderful, but also so so hard on you when a beloved grandfather dies. But he got to love you and watch you through your whole of growing up and that was very special. I bet he counted that as one of his blessings. I surely would have. I know that there is a hole in your heart right now. Give it time. You will always miss him, but in time it wont hurt so badly. Blessings, Love, may you be blessed abundantly Natty gentle hugs and a peck on the cheek,
Natty
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I am truly sorry your are reading my post, because it means you are here at MD Junction instead of out skydiving or deep sea treasure hunting or climbing Mount Kilimanjaro.......
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debhurts Posts: 1918
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Hello jen, i am sending huge hugs and letting you know i am here for you , i have personal grief experience and would love to talk or liten, we never know what hour God calls his chilren home, condolances to you, reguardless of age it is a traumatic loss, md youhd yourd, i am always available to talk to you if i am on pls,write me, and i certainly will help best i can big hugs, love debi i am not a medical professional or a counselor, please seek a doctors opinion, and seek professional counseling, my opinions are my own and not professional, please use common sense and get appropriate care by a professional. Thanks i am not being rude just responsible. Thanks Debi |
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Clarita Posts: 10951
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Hello Sweetpea, Firstly heart goes out massively to you right now for the sad loss of your Grandfather. Will be praying for you big time that heaven will comfort you mightily. Also,can fully empathise as lost my Grandma who called Nana ,5 years ago- was closer to her than anyone else in my blood family- she was very special- an earth angel- still miss her more than words can fully express. Have not commented until now as have had pc hassles- now thankfully fixed, as well as been migraine challenged! As for your FB friends- am not a fan of FB at all- think it can be a dangerous site plus have had a family Asperger's child bullied there!! Sometimes, it is in moments of crisis or loss that we find out who are true friends are- methinks this is for sure! Do not fret over those who do not take the time to show you condolence yet take comfort in all those whomever they be who do show you kindness support. Too often we can focus on the negatives instead of seeing all the warmth from other sources. Know it is not easy to keep perspective when you are very sad too- you sometimes are oversensitive. Yet, also see this as a time to gather to you all those who truly care- lean on these then those who show you a cold shoulder then toss them aside like flotsam or driftwood- so embrace only those who have good hearts to you. It matters not the quantity who care yet the quality who care deeply, truly!! Time is a great healer- speak from personal experience. There will come a day when you can look fondly on him plus smile at good memories you shared. You may even sense his spirit close to you, too. Sense that my Nana is close to me often times- feel sure she is a heavenly angel now. Let your feelings flow- do not censor them. Praying for your mum in law, your hubby as well as You DPL sweetpea! Hold on tightly. Lean on us all here- as can tell you for a fact- we all care deeply!! All the GL's are here to support you too- so please pm either myself, Natty, Kim or John or even all 4 of us. Asking heaven to send many angels plus earth angels your way to comfort you, protect you, embolden you so you assert your needs in a calm assertive manner, random acts of kindness come your way, gentle touches of healing, guide you to true friends/friendships plus ensure you only go to online sites that are truly supportive as well as safe, may you have restorative sleep plus deep peace- may all this tenderly yet mightily be so for You-may it be so! You will rise again like a phoenix. Be patient. Hold on tightly, too! Lean on your MDJ family please!! Much love winging its way to you, extra gentle hugs, your friend come rain or shine or rainbow Clarita  |
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Seventeen Posts: 193
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First off, I'm so sorry for the rough week you've had. Clarita's right. Don't take Facebook responses too seriously; it does more harm than good. When I was on Facebook, before I was diagnosed with Asperger's, about 20 people from my senior class (including my IRL friends who weren't actually friends at all) sent me messages that I'm worthless and should commit suicide. Yeah, this happened during my high school senior year, but a lot of people are just insensitive and never grow up. Perpetually in high school ignorance land, so to say. If someone cared, they wouldn't message you on Facebook first. Take whoever calls and comforts as your real friends, and leave the insensitive by the wayside. I know things are tough now, but they will get better. Keep your chin up Autism
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