Self Esteem & Positive Thinking Support Group

I felt I had to talk to someone, so I thought I would come on here and let it out.

My boyfriend is a downer. Like the other day I went to my cousins high school graduation, and the class president was so cool. He sang "DAAAAAY OHHHH" and he had the crowd sing it back to him. And I was trying to tell my boyfriend about him and hes like he sounds like a douche bag. I'm like well, that's how I was during high school. Very outgoing. Did my own thing. And hes like yeah... He still sounds like a douche bag.

Then yesturday, I finally heard from a job that I interviewed for, and I was so excited. Then I got this direct sales in the mail, and I was more excited. So, we went out to eat, and I thought he would want to look at the merchandise with me. He seemed interested when my mom was telling him about it. So, I got it out, and I'm like come on babe take a look at this with me... maybe we can find something for the house! And I thought he was kidding but he wasn't. He's like Tonya. I'm tired. I don't want to look at it.

We've had this talk before about taking an interest in what I like, and my heart just sank. I was so excited, and I thought he would be excited for me, and then it just killed my mood.

Then last month we went camping up at lake ontario with my family (sorry, ADHD haha), and we were staying from friday until sunday. We took a separate vehicle so we could come and go as we please. Well, it was about 1 in the afternoon, and out of no where he wanted to leave. With no regards to how I felt about leaving. I cried for a half hour because I wanted to stay with my family that I don't really see much anymore. He's like Tonya I'll take you back and you can ride home with your mom. But I wanted him to stay with me and enjoy it with me. Is that too much to ask?

Ok. That's all. Thanks for listening.

Tonya

hey im new to this group, i was reading your post and i just wanted to pop in and say it diffently isnt to much to ask for him to stay with you the night with your family you dont see much, and take an interest in your things that you like..

to be honest some men can be very very selfish, would you try talk to him again or maybe take a bit off time out to look after yourself for a little

Tonya,

My ex was the same way -- became a jerk in so many situations. I moved in with him to a different city, where I rarely saw my parents. Whenever I did see them, he'd whine and want to go home. He sees his parents EVERY DAY. If he can't do things with you, he's not a real man period.

Talk to him about it, tell him how hurtful it is. Otherwise, he won't have a clue.

Should i write this or not. Spent the day with my ex who i dearly love and see every week,he has an anger problem. He yelled and cussed me for one thing or another all day. If he made a wrong turn, I was a f-------idiot and it was all my fault.We were on a trip so i couldnt do anything till we got back. then i told him i would not be treated that way and left. Dont know why some men are so cruel.Tonya stand up for your self, dont let him crush your spirit.

Thank you everyone for your posts. We've had a good weekend so far. Wanted to see fireworks lastnight, but he didn't want to drive, so we missed it. I guess I could have driven, but I wasn't feeling very good all day. Decided not to go to my family function to go to one of his friend's BBQs, and I got shit from my family. Maybe I just need to get my balls back! LOL...

Dulce it is important not to lose yourself in your relationship. My best friend was involved with a guy that was anti social. SHe is the complete opposite. She is very outgoing and very active in a lot of things. She had to drag him to many events and he just ended up being resentful.

I certainly hope that your boyfriend can start enjoying more things with you. I am single and I know how it feels to do lots of things by yourself. Many times I have wondered how much more fun and how much more I would have enjoyed something if I would of had someone to share it with.

Hang in there and keep posting your feelings. SMiles

Dulce i can really relate to what you are saying. I wanted to go to the fair this week but he didnt want to so i didnt want to do it by myself so i missed it. He did go with me to a car show, but traffic was heavier than usual and he started yelling again. I 'm trying to act like i don't care with him. seems like people like him ,if they know they are hurting you they do it more. I'm trying to be like, stay or go its nothing to me. When i care too much he seems to hurt me more. figure that out.lol

Dear logangirl,

Just remember his anger is his problem and has nothing to do with you.

Don't let him bring you down.

Keep your positive attitude, and remember to be kind to yourself.

Tonya and logangirl, You girls both deserve far better/far greater respect from your boyfriends as well as for them to show far more interest in all your interests, for sure. Quite agree with Kara- do not let these guys drag you down!!

Be kind to your fine selves- that includes being bold with your other half's to ensure you are both treated with kindness plus respect. Make it so/make it happen!

Warmest wishes, Clarita

You are the most important thing in this equation. If the men in your lives are Not what you thought they would be, than you have to find that place of strength within you and know you deserve better from this life. That you have a right and deserve happiness. Hugs, Rachele

Post edited by: Peace4Rach, at: 08/02/2010 04:03 PM