On the surface and believing in you that you only have the best thoughts I would say no it wouldn't be so bad.....
But let me let out my evil psych nurse to explain why you might not want to do this:
Not everyone is purely altruistic
some here might be truly psychotic
all the members here are protected by the safeguards set in place by Roy and ALON....
and that might not be the case with the exchange of phone numbers.
If someone has my phone number they can use a reverse directory to find the real estate address....
In AA everyone shows up at the door. BUT you aren't supposed to date someone from your AA group. Are you? They don't encourage fraternization, do they?
I did just read the rules of use and privacy policies....it is recommended you do not share your numbers.
All that being said yes there are times when we really want to get a hold of someone smarter and wiser than we are ourselves.....but sometimes it is not possible, like for instance right now there are no other group leaders on the fibro site....hello??? So there was no one wiser and better looking to ask about your queary.
On the other hand perhaps anyone you would ask it of or who would ask it of you is so perfectly attuned to the lifestyles AND sensibilities
and is perfectly sane and would never intend harm....
I don't know.
And then there are the people I call black holes or soul suckers...
They are, pure and simple, evil....give them an inch they try to suck your soul right out of you, and unless you have had experience with them, by the time the novice realizes they are in over their head, they are truly in over their head and are hurt, destroyed, broken
and unable to save themselves. And these people come in the guise of doctors, nurses, social workers, grandmothers, nuns and priests....all likely to strike a feeling of safety in us by virtue of their title.
And then there is the reverse....."He said he only wanted to help, and agreed to meet my daughter at the local McDonald's and I haven't seen her since".....guess who is now suspect number 1.
Unless you have played through all the sceanerios possible in human interaction and have worked out how you will handle it if you are on the receiving end of a walking black hole or are accused of something awful like murder or rape I would advise you to be careful, circumspect, and thoughtful before you give out your number.
But what do I know....just being a little dreary, but maybe that's because real life can be somewhat dreary if we aren't quite careful.
I doubt I have helped you...I couldn't find anything in the rules that forbade it. So I would caution you to be careful.....and don't forget about reverse directories.
However I have worked with walking black holes and dealt with the truly psychotic, and aM truly glad I do not any more, it takes an awful lot out of you.
So think it through, very carefuly. I truly do not want to see you hurt.
Natalia
Post edited by: Natalia5150, at: 04/01/2010 01:41 PM
