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Beccaboo
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Hi, I had a hyserectomy several years back, but before that I had horrible problems from PCOS, primarily infertility. Fortunately, I was able to have a birth child and then we adopted two more. I thought I might be able to offer encouragement to those who are still in the midst. Becca |
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mesafoxx
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HI THERE BECCABOO, MY NAME IS MARGE, BACK IN 1986 I HAD A COMPLETE HYST. IT WAS THE SADDIST MOMENT IN MY LIFE. UNLIKE U I WAS NEVER ABLE TO HAVE CHILDREN. OMG, I WANTED CHILDREN MORE THAN U WILL EVER KNOW, MAYBE. I HAD 8 D AND C'S, I HAD MY TUBES UNBLOCKED, WAITED 8 LONG WEEKS TO C IF MY TUBES HAD BLOCKED BACK UP AND WOULDN'T U KNOW THEY DID. OH MY THE PHYSICIAN CRIED RIGHT ALONG WITH ME. HE WAS AN AWESOME MAN, IF ANYONE COULD HAVE HELPED ME IT WOULD HAVE BEEN HIM. A MONTH LATER, MY LIFE OF HAVING A CHILD ENDED. NO I NEVER EVEN LOOKED INTO ADOPTING A CHILD. I KNEW AT THAT TIME IN MY LIFE I COULDN'T AFFORD WHAT THEY WERE ASKING. SO, IVE JUST GONE ON THRU LIFE. WELL, NOW IM A 50YR OLD WOMEN WITH NO-ONE TO LOVE AS I GET OLDER. LOOKS LIKE I WILL DIE ALONE, BECAUSE AT THAT TIME HE HAD NO IDEA ABOUT POLYCYSTIC OVARIAN SYNDROME. THE FIRST TIME I HEARD ABOUT IT WAS IN 2006. I CRIED FOR 2 DAYS. KNOWING I WAS TOO OLD AND BECAUSE OF MY HYST. THERE WAS NO HOPE FOR ME. MY QUESTION TO U OR SOMEONE THAT MAY KNOW THE ANSWER IS: THIS MEANS I STILL HAVE THIS SYNDROME, I STILL GET EVERYTHING THAT CAME WITH THE SYNDROME, THE HAIR ON THE FACE, THE MOLES UNDER THE ARM, THE BEING OVERWEIGHT, ETC..... IS THERE SOME KIND OF MEDICINE TO TAKE TO CARE FOR ALL OF THAT, THAT U ALL MAY TAKE? THANK YOU KNOW FOR ANY KIND OF INFO U COULD GET FOR ME. THAT WOULD JUST BE GREAT. THANKS FOR YOUR TIME TOO. MARGIE ***If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.*** {{GENTLE HUGS}}.
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Beccaboo, sorry for the caps i didnt realize i was even using the caps at all so please would u except my apology? Im not hollaring at u at all. ***If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.*** {{GENTLE HUGS}}.
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Hey Margie! Don't worry about the all caps! I really feel for you. Perhaps you could take glucophage/metformin to help with your symptoms. I still have the lovely chin hair, but I've finally found a place close enough to me to do laser hair removal, which I'll begin next month. Okay, about adoption. God blessed me with one bio child and two adopted children. You are right, it is EXTREMELY expensive! I used 2 different adoption agencies for my adoptions. The second one has mega-money behind it. My son's adoption cost less than half of what my daughter's cost. A friend who adopted at the same time wound up (through tax rebates) paying ESSENTIALLY NOTHING for her 4-year-old son's adoption. While in China the last time, I met several single women in their early 50's who were adopting their FIRST child. And let me tell you this: I love ALL THREE of my kids just as much as each other. I would love to help you if you should decide to adopt. Nothing excites me more! Both of my children were a little "older" at adoption. I started out asking for the perfect healthy baby. I'm so glad that isn't what I got. My daughter has a heart murmur, but needs no surgery. My son was born withcleft lip and palate, but you can't even see the scars any more! I really want one more child, but I haven't been able to convince hubby. Three really is enough. But you do NOT have to spend the rest of your life without a child if you really want one. I'll hold your hand the whole way and get you "hooked up" if you wish. If adoption is not your desire at this time, we can talk about other things that might fulfill you. My bio child was a miracle. The doctors were scratching their heads. We should NOT have gotten pregnant on our own, and yet we did. But, after experiencing both adoption and giving birth, I would have been okay with either one or neither one. As a person of the Christian faith, I finally said, "Okay, God, if you don't want me to have a child, I accept it." That was the hardest prayer I ever prayed. But I meant it, and now I'm just amazed at these children who are running through my house. All 3 are miracles. Please let me know if I can help you! Blessings and hugs, Beccaboo |
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hi Becky - if i may call u that? I hope i can remember what i just wrote, because i lost the first note. I will try ok. I know that God has brought u and i together. I know he wants me to understand, that he wouldn't give me more than i could handle and may-be at that age i couldn't handle having children or afford to have children, (i know no one really can) also the reasons why, ya know i always wondered why me, why was i left out of the most wonderful gift that God could give to a women. I wouldn't say i was angry, but i would definitely say i was and have been confused all of these yrs. I had a dream that i will never forget, it was about having a baby, and i saw a little girl, she (to me) was beautiful, a little chunky toe head, with a pretty pink sheer dress and a fluff slip underneath to make the dress flair, little tiny flowers on the upper front of her dress, background being white. She had white patten-leather shoes on with pink socks and lace around the cuff. I turned her around to see her face and there was nothing but a cloud, there was no face, and i knew at that moment i would never have any children. Now, 4 weeks later i had a complete hyst. Nov. 1986. I just felt i needed to tell u that, i guess to get it off my chest, I don't tell just anyone about that, and now i sometimes i still wonder, but its all good, I know that God had something else planned for me, still don't know what it is or was but it doesn't really matter anymore. God is so good to me in other ways. Thank you for all u have offered me Becky but i just don't think at this juncture in my life even at 50yrs old that i could handle it now either,  I also take care of my mother, she is 78 yrs young and ill with COPD and i too have quite a few problems, i have fibromyalgia, diabetes, chronic fatigue syndrome, etc... i don't think i need to go on and on. Otherwise everything is good. I am so happy that u got to be a mother, I feel that u are very lucky and God blessed you. That is absolutely wonderful. Do you have any pictures? I would love to see them. One thing about me is i love children, i used to babysit and everyone of my friends had kids. Now this is unreal too, listen to this one, My best friends at the time,( the woman still is, since then her husband has passed,) they let me go with her (with husband approval of course, ) into the delivery rm when she was pregnant with her 1st child now, they're 1st now and (this i couldn't believe) when we were all finished, she had given birth to a little boy, they both asked me at the same time , WHAT ARE U GOING TO NAME OUR LITTLE BOY, i was in shock, i was like what???? What r u going to name our little boy. that is our gift to u for coming in with Colleen., I was like could u give me a few minutes. Needless to say i was on cloud nine. So i did name him Christopher Michael , and i guess if i would have had a son that would have been his name. Isn't that too cool. Well, guess I've bent ur ears enough today. sometimes i cant shut-up, i get on a roll and that's the way it goes. ha, ha. Margie ***If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.*** {{GENTLE HUGS}}.
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Hi, all. I'm new here and have been battling pcos for 14yrs. I'm 26 now and I knew something was wrong from my very first period: it was accompanied with a very painful bladder infection. I've never had a regular cycle nor a predictable one, oh what a dream! To know. This post really has moved me almost to tears that someone should suffer such a fate. I often wonder if I too will have to have a hysterectomy done. I don't want one, but I don't want to continue with hirsutism/acne/alopecia/depression either. It's so difficult sometimes trying to cope with all that occurs. Not to mention the Reactive Hypoglycemia I face daily. UGH. My mom had a partial hysterectomy done because she was bleeding from her body instead of just in her womb. Doctors also said she was born with a lopsided uterus. So I fear I will need one and not be able to bear my own child someday. And oh how I do love children. They are the most precious on earth to me. I always tell people be thankful for your ability to procreate with ease. Truly it is a blessing to do so. And I tell people, if God would just bless me with one child, I won't even be greedy and ask for another. I'd be so proud just to bear that one. ~Reaching" |
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