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11/04/2010 04:34 PM

Am I the Only one?

Jomarie220
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I dont know how to deal with the intense depression I face due to the inability to conceive as of yet. I am close to a lot of people and have seen 4 births this year and each time I find out of my friends pregnancies, it feels like a knife has been thrashed into my chest and I feel sever pain in my heart. I have yet to find a way to overcome the pain of not being able to do the one thing we as woman were made to do.

The only thing that has slightly helped, I would say more of a mask to the pain is keeping myself busy.

Is there anyone out there that feels this way? Or am I the only one?

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11/04/2010 10:12 PM
newrsd
 
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No- u r not the only one. I just recently had a miscarraige and I cant bring myself to socialzie with any of my friends with babies yet as it is too difficult. Being busy definitely helps because i dont have time for all the desparing thoughts.

11/06/2010 04:51 PM
emma1980
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You're definitly not alone JoMarie, all of my friends have kids & i am so jealous of them. We're currently ttc-ing, every time my period arrives i become depressed more & more. I try to stay positive but its so hard at times, right now im 4 days late (for a 28 day cycle), thanks to the pcos i have irregular cycles so never know when my periods due. At this point my hopes start to rise more & more with every passing day & then...bam! my period arrives & we start all over again. It is so depressing Sad

Newrsd, {{hugs}} Hope you're ok hun


01/10/2011 06:10 AM
giggles90
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No you're not alone at all. My friend has recently had a baby and it's so hard to handle being around the baby x *hug*

01/10/2011 08:07 AM
panchan14
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You are definitely not alone. I know that there are a lot of times that I get depressed when I find out that one of my friends is pregnant, I know for me in particular, adoption is my only route. I know it's hard, though I do know I'm everyone's favorite 'auntie.' Keep your spirits up, hon, it will happen for you sooner than you think! Smile

Erin


03/15/2011 06:31 PM
Jomarie220
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Thanks so much!!! Smile

03/21/2011 06:03 PM
teetle99
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I know how you feel. I used to not show that it bothered me that i didnt have a child yet. I'd say i'm still too young and brush off the subject because i didn't want others to know that i could't conceive. Now that my 30th birthday is looming in the very near future i have became very emotional. i cry whenever i hold a baby! i know it's insane, but i try not to do it but i just cant help it. people look at me like i'm crazy. I am going to do all i can do to try and conceive. i've started on the metformin and my dr says after a few months if i can try clomid. I am praying that this works. I dont know what i will do if it doesn't. i haven't been to an infertility specialist yet. i'm going to try this treatment with my gyn and see what happens. I will keep you in my prayers jomarie. i know the pain that you are feeling.

03/22/2011 07:20 PM
Jomarie220
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Thank you for your encouragement!

Just remember, God see's the desires of our hearts. And he will honor those desires as we honor him in our life's. It is his will that we share His love with others. Let that be your focus... helping others even when you feel you cannot help yourself. And before you know it your pregnant!!! Smile I am praying for you as well!!!


03/28/2011 07:57 AM
panchan14
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Teetle, I feel for you. Do know that even if the meds don't work, there are other ways to bring a child into your life. I'm keeping you in my prayers, though, and I think Jomarie has a great point. Laughing As my mother always says, it will happen, not as soon as you want, but sooner than you think.

Erin

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