Parents of Bipolar Children Support Group

Hello Everyone!

Things have been quiet here---M is moving out this weekend. I was initially relieved a little (blush) when we decided on this, but she has tried to stay overnight there this week, and hasn't been able to make it the whole night yet. She is in a one bedroom apt, alone so that makes it harder too. I dont know how she'll do, but at least she's making an effort, right?

We'll see how it goes! *fingers crossed*

I'll keep all fingers (and toes) crossed hoping it all works out!

mijorimom, My daughter went to college at age 18. I was so relived. She was going to see what real life was all about and I was going to get a well needed break from her abuse. After she left she tried to call and harass me and I got the pleasure of hanging up on her. Did that feel good, HELL YES! To be able to stop her hateful words and abuse with just a hangup was wonderful. After months of this she decided she better not be such an ass to me especially since I was the one with the check book. I noticed when my daughter moved out that I slept better and looked 20 years younger, my genuine laughter came back and I forgot what life was like because of all the stupid self made abuse that my daughter was dishing out. It upsets me to think about all that hard time but we have come a long way. My daughter is going on 30 and has told me she regrets her choices and she never wants to go back to the dark days of when she was so off track. I remind her that she has to keep herself checked everyday and stay on top of it everyday. I have notice lately that she is trying to keep her new boyfriend in the distance because she realizes what it does to her chemistry and she does not like the person she becomes. It's so sad because she wants to have a boyfriend but understands how hard it is with her type of bipolar. I pray that she can meet the right man that is compassionate enough and intelligent enough to walk this life journey with her. I also pray for all our children that have this horrible illness.

Amen.

thank you all-M is doing so well yesterday and today-no outbursts, no abusive behavior or language to me or anyone else, I want to be hopeful, but know that at any moment things could turn. I am hopeful and guarded-that works She is moving the rest of her things tomorrow, and that'll be it then-she'll be out on her own. We are re-arranging the house, moving our other two kids, repainting bedrooms, replacing carpet, fixing walls and doors that M damamged, and our other 2 kids will have brand new bedrooms! They are excited-and so are we! I think there is a chance M will be back relatively soon, but continue to be hopeful that she will thrive on her own.

Thank you again for all the comforting words and support! I will continue to update on here and let you all know how she's doing.

Ok everybody-M is out on her own-all this week so far, and she is doing well. I took her grocery shopping, and she was very disappointed to learn just how much money eating is going to cost her-lol-she is still doing well, but with one minor outburst today.

She came over for a while this afternoon, and saw that I am painting and re-arranging and re-doing bedrooms and she said that she feels like we are all so happy now that she is gone, and wonders how its fair that J gets a new bedroom when M asked for a new bedroom repeatedly and never got it.

I was honest with her.

I told her that I used to do her bedroom all the time-cutesy themes, pink and white, green and pink, etc...but she was so destructive and disrespectful I stopped doing it. She never took care of any of it, destroyed most of it, refused to do chores, failing out of school, stealing, lying etc... I told her that it was too much to keep doing it for her. She told me that I make her feel like she did all of that on purpose. I told her that I understand that to a point, these things were out of her control, but that I also understand done is done. I told her she needs to understand that just because she didnt mean to do it, doesnt mean it wasnt done, and I am human. I told her that just becuase someone didnt mean to run someone over with a car doesnt make them any less run over. There are still consequences and hurt and pain to deal with, whether she meant to do it or not.

She told me that she feels like we are all happier now that she is gone. I told her that I am not happier, but I AM less stressed. I dont feel like I have to hide my things, I dont worry about anyone going in my room and stealing my shit, I dont have to hide phones, lock up money, I can leave my purse sit on the kitchen counter-less stressful, but not happier.

She was a little hurt when she left, but I think she understood-or at least is starting to understand. She is still taking her meds, and is starting to understand that she needs her meds for her to be independent and successful.

I hope she does well, and I hope she starts to see that her gramma isnt all she is cracked up to be, and starts putting some distance between her and gramma sooner rather than later, but time will tell I guess.

I hope everyone had a good day....and I pray for a good day for everyone tomorrow.

That is some good news! I hope she continues to do well.

Good news.I hope she continues.This is the kind of news that still gives me hope.

Thank you both-she is still doing well....day by day...day by day.

GREAAATT news! It's sinking in.

Happy dance time....

Post edited by: owutatangledweb, at: 01/21/2012 09:22 PM