Parents of Bipolar Children Support Group

This was the first year out of 33 yrs that I did not spend with my bipolar daughter. Just before Christmas, she was caught filing false insurance claims and pocketing the money, yes-Insurance Fraud. She was dismissed from her job, where I am the office manager. Needless to say, she was blowing up my phone, and my husbands - not taking responsibility for what she had done, trying to blame everyone else. And I am always the punching bag. So, this Christmas we took off to Biloxi, my son and his wife joined us. It was so nice, peaceful, and no drama. I was able to relax and enjoy myself. I did feel guilty for not being with my 15 yr old grandson, my daughters son, but we did our little Christmas get-together without her before I left. I explained to my grandson why I was leaving town, and he understood. The best thing I have done for myself was cut off all ties with my daughter. As my own mother said, "She is not your little girl anymore that you have to protect. She is a grown woman." Those words helped me end the emotional bondage she had me in, and I am so grateful that with this support group and family support I can move forward with no guilt. I just pray the Bipolar daughter of mine stays clear of my path. I just can't take anymore, and I am not getting any younger, it's harder to take the abuse when you're older, so I am soooo done.

I am glad you were able to enjoy Christmas with the rest of the family. I absolutely 100% agree that the drama is overwhelming and there comes a time when all you want to do is live, breathe and enjoy life without the "episodes". I had coffee last night with a dear friend who has a 20 year old son with mental illness, my 27 year old daughter is bipolar/borderline/antisocial ect... I reccommended this site to her because although this is not getting better, at least it is comforting to know we are not alone.......

chaco3914,

I was so happy to hear that you had a drama free Christmas and that you are done with your daughter's bad living. I know it had to be horribly hard on you, what your daughter did in the office you manager, I understand the grief, pain, embarrassment, disbelief and all the agony that goes with a child that is off track.

I'm so glad you have made your mind up to not put up with her nonsense anymore, I pray that she gets tired of her own bad choices and decides to straighten up once and for all. Christmas is a hard time alone but add bipolar to the mix and it ruff.

rlt- I hope you had a peaceful Christmas and glad you have a friend that understands bipolar, hope she gives this site a try, it sure has helped me.

Hi, I am new to this site. I totally understand the drama of having a bipolar daughter. I have one, and this holiday she went to live with her biological father. He also has mental issues. My husband, son, and I had a total drama free holiday, without any episodes or threats. I do miss her, but can't deal with the years of episodes, threats and drama, and her refusing to take her meds.

Hello All-Im so happy to hear about all the Happy Christmases this year!! Maybe this year is the year that M will get it!! *fingers crossed*

M seems to be "getting it" a little better, but I must admit that I am reluctant to say that because that has come back to bite me in the ass in the past. M isn't living her full time right now, so I really only know what she is doing for 3-4 days a week-which may or may not be an accurate representation of her choice making skills. I hope that she is doing things to make her life more comfortable.

I keep telling her that knowledge is power and life is exactly what she makes of it, that she will get what she gives, what goes around comes around, and other fun things like that. I know she gets sick of hearing it, but these are things that I really do believe and that I believe have helped me make better decisions in my own life.

I really hope that one day M and I will be close like we used to be and that our relationship will continue to improve. M told her therapis that a part of her depression is knowing that her relationship with me has been damaged by her behavior and that she would like to work on repairing it. I was shocked-and touched.

She hasnt been that nice to me in a long time-I forgot how much she touches my heart-even when Im angry with her.

She gave me a Christmas ornament this year that says "No one has ever loved her mother more than I love you." I cried.

I really hope that she does continue to make better choices, and that she starts to keep her promises. I forget sometimes just how much I love this kid. <3

I hope the New Year brings us all peace, patience and renewed energy to get these kids where/what the need when they need it.

Hugs to All!!