Parents of Bipolar Children Support Group

This has been such a nightmare. My daughter's pdoc was out of town for three weeks, forcing us into a hospitalization. They got her stable in there, but once out things started to change with her again...the depression is back. I am certain it's going to be like this until that D--n depoprovera shot is out of her system. Gonna be constant med adjusting. This has been a nightmare with the doctor gone. I couldn't get her to go back to school last week, just one day and the anxiety threw her into full-blown depression. My honor student has one month of high school left and she doesn't want to go anymore. She doesn't want to go to college anymore either. By May 1st she's supposed to accept or reject scholarships and decide which college she's going to....NOT...at least according to her! Pdoc comes back tomorrow. He did call me Friday concerned about her but there was really nothing he could do at that point. Friday I had her lithium levels checked. They would fax results to the pdoc but not to me even though I had a release. I'd have to go the lab personally to get them. Guess what!! pdoc wasn't there, he was out of town. That's why IIII wanted them!!! They didn't care. I couldn't get to the lab before they closed...UHGGGG... I don't know whether to try to get her out of bed in the morning or be at the lab at the crack of dawn!!! OR, for a change, actually get to work at my job??!!! I really wish there were 2 or 3 more of me at this point. How do I make all this happen?!

Oh my I wish I was there to help you. I know how you feel...oh!!! I know how you feel, my daughters Pdoc is gone for three months...how do you take a vacation for three months with his kind of job??

Thank you for your compassion. I know you know EXACTLY how I feel. I thought three weeks was bad!!! How do you function with a pdoc who's gone for three MONTHS! That is ridiculous for a doctor of any kind to do. I hope yours has some kind of replacement. The one who was supposedly there for us didn't even know where our pdoc's office is when I asked her if she could look at the fax!!! She's refused to touch my daughter and didn't appear to be willing to even see her!! I spoke with my daughter tonite. We debated another hospitalization. She suggested some kind of outpatient program where she sees a pdoc daily. I don't know if they do that. I have to call in the morning. And, our only option is an hour away. She can't drive that everyday. I worry about her driving right now. AND, I just don't know what to do about school. She can't focus. Talks about finishing up by doing correspondence courses or something like that but yet she can't even touch the work she has!!! I'm sorry to vent. I just feel as lost as she does. She already feels like she's ruined her life. I told her that sometimes it's okay to put your dreams on hold; but she has to finish high school because she's so close to the finish line. I told her if college has to wait, then it has to wait. But, didn't tell her "Bye, bye scholarships"..... Thank you for listening to me vent. I'm beyond frustrated and feeling almost as hopeless as she is.

I feel so inadequate by saying "I hope all goes well for you." I am thinking of you and hoping things fall into place with school.

Do you think you could just accept one of the scholarships/colleges for her in the meantime and just hope she gets back into the groove again once she is stable? I know that its more complicated than that but maybe it's worth a try. I don't know if that means you have to put up money now and risk losing it however. It's ashame that she is so close, so smart and just having a problem at a crucial time. There's got to be someone-guidance counselor or even someone at the college that could help you through this period where you have a lot riding on a decision.

Keep us posted and good luck!

Update: I spoke with her guidance counselor at school. He doesn't want to force her back to school before she's ready. He said that her not graduating is NOT an option at this point. He's going to talk to all her teachers to whittle her work down to the essentials so she doesn't feel so overwhelmed right now. The teachers have been very compassionate. Some have stopped in the office to ask about her out of concern for her health. I talked with her about it and she feels overwhelmed right now about the thought of ANY work. She's also worried about her job because she's had to call off because she can't function there either even though it doesn't involve any thinking. She's a salesperson and can't talk to anyone. Jbsmom, I think you're right, we'll have to select a school. I told her this and that when that time comes if she's not ready for college, she can just put her dreams on hold...sometimes we have to do this. Or, she can go to the community college. Pdoc is back, New med yesterday also....*fingers crossed*....

Good luck. I truly believe it will all work out for the best no matter how it all turns out.

We are pulling for you and your daughter..My daughter hasnt gone through depression of that magnitude, so i can only imagine how it feels to be the parent in your shoes. Prayers are with you both

No anxiety today! yay! The new med seems to be helping *keeping fingers crossed*

Yay!

What's the new med?

Kudos, Kudos