Parents of Addicts Online Support Group

When something awful happens to our addict children be it a overdose and ending up in the hospital, jail, all the crimes and baggage that come with it, we get to a point where we are sure we can't take another thing, but then the other thing comes and we are knocked down emotionally, we try to follow the rules of detachment the best we can but they are in fact our children, and we can only do certain things in theory and there is no perfect way, no clear cut answer and we learn it is progress rather than perfection, and we can only be true to our own hearts because ultimately we have to live with our decisions but I would ask that each and everyone of you no matter how tired and worn out, no matter how fed up or pissed, I ask that you please please please never give up hope that this business of addiction can be won and the addict can choose to fight it and get clean on a daily basis.

It is perhaps egotistical to think we can make a difference in the addicts life, but I think not, I think that there is the bond of a mother or a family member that an addict clings to. Someone has to hold that hope for them, for they become hopeless, they are sure they will die a using addict, most addicts are fed up long before they quit, so keep holding some degree of hope even if it is tiny, water it, and nurture it in your own spirit first, say "I know you can until Thomas believes he can.

A good thing to do is to start seeing your sons or daughters or nieces or nephews, or grandchildren clean, just play with it in your mind, say affirmations, it can happen, I just know it can.

hope, what a beautiful word. here's my hope for today my friends. talked to (texted, the new "talk to") my daughter last night. she had a great interview at the nursing home that she wants to work at, hired her(based on her criminal check,fingers crossed) i told her "please stay good until june"(on probation till then) she texted back "gonna stay good forever" hope, hope, hope. love you all sharon

Now thats a post to brighten my day!!! Love all you too, Lynda

Mine too. I know she can, I trust she is feeling pretty good about this, and it will be good because it will work on the compassion and self esteem. We can not say enough how proud we are when they choose the road, and why should we not be it is the hardest thing to quit, it is pure strength to get up when you yourself had in you something always knocking you down, addiction does that, they fear they are weak because they were knocked down, so you keep telling her how much strength she has, and that she will make a great caretaker of elderly people.

i think she is feeling good. i just hope she gets thru the criminal check. had one felony arrest(we got her a great lawyer, and she did drug school, so supposed to not be a conviction) and a retail theft(idiot, oh i guess it's not nice to call your daughter an idiot)which she is on probation for till june. don't really know what they check with a job interview, but i sure hope she can gets this job. i really think it will make all the difference. oh my beautiful little girl, why did you do this to yourself? fingers crossed ladies. love, sharon

Thank you for hope, Patti. Pam

I wish there was a "like" button, Sharon. I am so happy for your daughter. Pam

One of the most insightful and acurate posts I have read. What a beautiful message of the most precious gift of all: Hope. Thank you Patti. Praying for strength, love, peace, patience, knowledge, wisdom and hope for all. Krista

There is lots of hope Krista nice to see you post. Hold on to what you can because it may say your ass when there is nothing but it. Hope, hope hope! God have mercy on a mothers soul, if nothing else is ever granted spare the soul, who clings to hope.

A big amen for that huh?

i ask God to never let the hope die for any of us.

Recently, my worst fears have been realized concerning my 30 yr. old daughter and mother of two; she's a herion addict. I'm highly educated, PhD, have given my children many opportunities to succeed, always have had faith in them to reach their goals and dreams - vacations, camping, cruises - tucked them in bed at night and read stories until they fell asleep... how did I NOT see my daughter become a herion addict? I cry at night in my bed and cry during the day in my office...she refuses to go into rehab. I'm sick to my stomach, I don't know what to do... I feel helpless... I am angry... yet I love her so much and can't turn my back on her. Hope is all I have... thank you for your post.