Parents of Addicts Online Support Group

Welcome to the group, and such wonderful advice from all the members. We have all experienced the heartache,the lies, manipulation of what the drug has done to our child.

It holds our child hostage, as as so many will tell you. THEY WILL NOT GET CLEAN UNTIL THEY CHOSE TO. We can not make them, bribe, threaten, or CONTROL it. The harder you try,it seems, to push them further into using. Your story seems so similar to my daughter... she was great at telling me "whatever she felt I needed her to say", and she didnt need help from a therapist, etc. She finally reached out, AFTER, I took conrol of my addiction of trying to control her addiction. It was her choice to use, mine to say NOT IN MY HOUSe and enforce it. Keep posting, and remember... WE ARE ALL HERE TO HELP GIVE YOU STRENGTH and SUPPORT, YOU ARE LOVED and together is how we all GET THROUGH THIS... LOVE LAURA

Nice post Laura. We can point out the water but ultimately they must walk there and drink of it on their own, I believe detachment is good but I believe God or their guardian angels direct us each to an understanding of what works or does not work, and ultimately all our actions are thrown in the mix of their experience and helps them to see drugs are not working for them. I am glad for all that I did not do better at the beginning because even that was adding to her bottom.

Hi, Kitty and welcome. My only child, my 23 year old daughter, is a heroin addict. I found this group a few months ago, and they have been a lifesaver for me. I don't think I can add much to all the wonderful posts. As you have already seen, you will find great support and guidance here. We all understand your journey, so please lean on this group. Hugs, Julie

Welcome Kitty, I have been reading others reply to you and there is not more i can add. But I did want you to know i am glad you are here, it will be your road home back to yourself, your needs, your wants, you may still struggle with sadness but it is in getting in touch with the utter sadness and fear that will bring you to a realization that you are powerless over addiction. The nice thing now is you will realize you are not alone, there will not be many feelings you share that we cannot relate to, or wish to help comfort you through. Even in having had consoling while going through the worst of it with my daughter this was a place I could come and find comfort and understanding on a much deeper level. So glad you are reaching out, and so glad so many woman on here have embraced you. It simply brings tears to my eyes that the women on here are so compassionate. I love and adore you all.

Shari, Alligators? OMG did you toss any shoes? I would not toss a turkey....lol

Welcome Kitty, There's not much left to say that all the wonderful mother's here haven't said. Yes, as was said before, we are all trying to survive our childs addiction. I have three children as well, and it's my youngest son that is truly addicted to anything he has tried through the years. Unfortunately he has tried so many. When he stops one, he will use another to cope with not using the one he has stopped. What a vicious cycle. One shimmer of light recently, is that he did go to his first NA meeting last week. I go through times of leaving it up to him and God and then going back to try guiding him again. The best thing is for me to let him walk down this path by himself and have incredibly faith that when it's time God will guide him to what will help long term. Praying for you and your daughter and all on this sight. God will always be there to help us all through and STAY STRONG. Take Care & God Bless. Linda