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Finally got around to packing my sons stuff up from where he was living. He has so little left, will drop it off tomorrow and will have no need to hear from him again. I am very angry with him, I want to rip his head off when I see him. I had bought a new blanket, for me and mostly for him when he was staying here off and on, when he was supposedly clean, see cant even say clean yet...no trust after the last episode, well noticed a large burn mark on it. It all fits, my daughter had found ashes on the coffee table last time he stayed here, he was high, well no on is ever allowed to smoke in our house but to think he had the nerve after we were asleep to smoke in our house and then fall asleep with it obviously lit...dear God that is everyones nightmare let alone with a child in the house, he could have burned it down. It wasnt a small hole either, at least an inch long.That also would make sense why I found him trying to sneak it out of the house. This would end it forever between my daughter and Mike, even if he came back clean a year, she would not forgive him for endangering her daughter. Stop the madness, I want off. Hugs to all Lynda

Lynda it just breaks my heart to read your post..I know that you love your son and are tortured beyond belief with the fact that he is not clean and have the hope dashed..I am so glad that nothing happened to all of you and it is so easy for tragedies to happen with house fires....stay strong and take care of yourself..hugs and prayers.

Oh Lynda I am so sorry for what happened and to tell you the truth, I wouldn't blame your daughter one bit either. Now with all his stuff out you can hopefully move forward into a peaceful life you deserve, no more of his things to be your constant demon. I applaud you for the very difficult decisions you are making. You are always in my thought and prayers. Love Doreen

Lynda, I can feel your pain and anger in your words, and yes you have the right to both. You need this for your sanity. Hopefully one day Mike will fully clean up his act. Just like I hope my daughter is not a ticking time bomb, which I think she is. It is hard to ever find that trust when you are constantly being stepped on and railroaded. Enjoy your new peace. Lord knows you deserve it. Love Tee.

Lynda, words cant express how sorry I am .. it beaks my heart to read your post, but you are doing the right thing ..In my opinion.. you need this for you ..It must of been a very hard decision .... You are in my prayers tonight...<3

Post edited by: greeneyemommy, at: 11/09/2011 05:49 PM

Thanks all, tomorrow I drop what clothes he has off. He is talking more and more about the 2 year program so have decided I will give him the phone number and more info on the program and its up to him to find a phone where he can call them and take the steps. I think he has been mostly true, I only talked to him twice this week and he is cut off all contact with friends, worked a bit with his Dad and has spent many long hours locked in the hostel thinking his life over. Tick tick Mike, time is running out.

Well I dont know what to think. I believe my son is taking his Dad for a ride. I dropped his clothes off, his Dad was there, outside, mad cause Mike's friend had stayed the night. His Dad wanted to use Mikes bathroom, went in with him and Mike locked him out saying he was cleaning the mess up first. His Dad could hear rustling around and when he went in found his friend still there. I have had my suspicions about this friend, I found out and asked Mike straight out that I had heard they were doing something called parachutes on their fishing trips, he said it was peyote or some hallucinatory plant, forget what he called it. I heard yesterday that his friend was picking up a heroin dealer, Mikes old roommate, so I have to say the old gut feeling, right. I have ripped this kids face off when he has come around here to pick Mike up, and well hes a darn good liar. But I cant do anything about it. Dad cant afford to enable him much longer. I included all the information about the program in Vancouver for him, he said well doesnt do me much good without a phone. Still not bottoming out.

SOUNDS SHADY TO ME .......NON OF US HAVE THE TIME OR EFFORT TO ENABLE OUR KIDS .. WE DESERVE SOME PEACE ..i HOPE YOU FIND IT .....

Lynda, I'm with you, you have given him the information and now it is up to him. Stay strong my friend. I know the feeling of wanting to rip off the friends face. I actually asked one of Brian's friends to take a drug test. Hum I don't see him anymore. Stick to your guns. You are such a strong person and deserve to have peace.

Love, Doreen

Thank you all. We have strong days and days when we just cry at anything and everything. My son phoned me at work today and told me he had a new room and phone number, I proceeded to tell him my feelings, which was short and to the point, get a life and go to rehab, you are causing me so much distress. Yea,well he called me at home tonite, honestly dont you get it, do you hear the tears, the stress, but I guess they just dont understand. He denies all my accusations, whew will there ever be a point in my life when I trust him again.