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Well my daughter showed up today to tell me that someone broke into her apartment, stole her TV, cigs, and cash that she had sitting on the coffee table.

Here is the weird part, she has been broke for a couple days, no pills?? So she says! And she left her money at home while at her dealer buddy's house?? Yea right!!! I dont believe it. And as far as someone breaking in she has been leaving her house unlocked for some odd reason for months?? I think she sold or traded her tv, spent the money, smoked the cigs and was trying to get stuff off of me!!!

My answer was no of course, then I told her I told you not to leave your apt. unlocked. Which made her mad she tried to turn on the tears claiming that she needed to get El something for xmas and no she couldn't.

I told her that she will figure something out and as far as someone stealing from her, now she knows what it feels like to be violated when someone takes your things. She had done it to us, my parents, her daughter, and a few other places. If it is true about her getting robbed, then I call it Karma!!! I hope and think I handled this right.

Whats your all opinions???

wow! that sounds like my son last year ... he got robbed ..they stole his debit card & took all his money out of the bank, took his dumb bells , x box games etc..... don't believe it for a minute... thats the way they get drugs .. they are worried about one thing & that is getting there high....i know thats what you dont want to hear but thats my opinion ... My son sure pulled alot of crap like that..... I want other mommys opinion on this one .......

Post edited by: greeneyemommy, at: 12/15/2010 07:07 AM

Right on the money...they all do it..they have to make up a story for the missing things and a way to get money from who ever...my son sold his xbox a couple of years ago..he wanted one so bad for yrs and when I finally got it he only had it approx. 6mos..he kept telling me it was at his dad's..he knew I didn't talk to his dad (unless of course his dad was calling to bitch me out) enough to find out the truth. So yes they all do it

If she got robbed I would tell her to file a police report and that you will drive her down there. My daughter would steal from friends well her addict friends and when one filed a report on her she got arrested of course she said it wasn't her fault or that they gave her the stuff. Yeah right?

I don't think an addict needs to have their nose rubbed in anything and i am not saying I am not guilty of having said the same things, word for word, I have said the exact thing, her dealer stole from her. I said what i said to hopefully teach her, "hey see what low life's they are" But in fact she was smart enough to to have drawn that conclusion. It as if we are still so not over our own hurting a part of us wants them to feel what we did. It could all be a story, because like my daughter I am sure you have had her lie time and time again, I don't know if it is a story or not, only she knows. i would simply be like" I am sorry I don't know what happened as I am still struggling with some trust issues, I am also afraid to give you money and if it is for a gift for me, I just need you to know your staying clean is my gift, those things can be replaced and if you have an idea of who did it, only you can decide what to do about it" Sometimes i would say things to my daughter because of my own pain, or fear. But above and beyond anything else i just want my daughter clean, so i try not to add more to her plate than need be. Just my two cents , and what I have done and am learning not to do. Love, patti

Is your daughter clean? I guess i thought she was clean. Patti

Patti, I see what you are saying. I usually don't do that but this time I couldn't keep my mouth in check. As far as my daughter being clean she is not even close. She talks about it but that is all it is is talk. I keep hoping that she will eventually do it but right now she is in full blown active addiction. God Bless! Tee.

In that case I doubt she was robbed, and no the cash cow is dead! Love patti

That is what I figure too, I think she owed money and someone came collecting or she sold the stuff for pills. She did file a police report, but I dont know about all that. But you shouldn't keep your front door unlocked either. But I know I wont give her any money. I know where it will go and I am not helping her addiction. Momma's done! Tee

Mommy is strong! Chin up, we will get them all clean! I pray this...."God please get and keep all the kids from my POA group clean, please give all the parents strength and wisdom and give their kids courage to to get and stay clean! Thank you Amen" Love. patti