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Does anyone have a daughter with bipolar and manic behavior but also have two very small children?

Need advice when she threatens I will never see the kids again. She threatens to tell them I don't care about them anymore. My heart is breaking!! We have a very close relationship with our grandkids. Please help us!!

Post edited by: littlelucy, at: 06/17/2011 10:48 AM

Post edited by: littlelucy, at: 06/17/2011 10:53 AM

I am sorry that you are going through this, it must be very painful to have your daughter threaten to take your grandchildren away from you. I do not have any grown children myself, mine are still young but I can only imagine how I would feel in your position. I'm not sure what the law is where you live but in my state they have laws protecting the rights of grandparents, It may be a good idea to check into that. Is your daughter currently being treated for Bipolar? It sounds like she may need a little extra help if she is manic. I hope this helps a little bit, please continue to post and let us know how things are going.

My heart goes out to you.

My daughter is 27. She actually enjoys how she feels. She has not taken any meds since she turned 18. Only during her pregnencies did she seem "normal"for the sake of a better word, she was rational and even-tempered, she was a true joy to be around. We all thought that her new life made her happy. Soon after her youngest child turned about 6-9 months old she started changing very slowly. Now her second child will be two. OMG...the s*** has hit the fan! She has joined a women's sport that takes her away 3-4 nights a week and every weekend. There has been times she doesn't come home at all. Her husband calls me to watch the kids at 4:30am on a Monday so he can go to work. She goes to bars and drinks with these mostly single women. She travels 120 miles round trip each time she goes! Her husband makes goods money so she can be an at-home mom. It cost her a $100.00 a week in gas. The children are well taken care of by my daughter and son in law. But I can see changes in her care for the kids. She is so distracted by something or someone that she doesn't spent

with her family. She tells stories about her past that is so disorted and makes her childhood family so evil. She is back to lying and flying off the handle. She has grandios stories of her past that never happen. She has gotten additional tatoos that make no sense. She has gotten her beautiful hair cut off into a weird style. She so proud of the nasty bruises she gets from this roller derby sport. I refused to attend her "champonship" so we are officially ousted from her family. Sorry for the long text!

She definitely sounds like she is in full blown mania, it can be a great feeling until the crash comes (and it will come). Has she seen a pdoc within the past two years? Unfortunately, when someone is full blown manic it is next to impossible to convince them to seek help. I hope that she comes down and seeks help soon, both for her sake and for the sake of her family. I can relate to the "memories" of childhood that aren't real, I have them too and they feel completely real to me but my family says that these things never took place. It is very confusing because others see this as me lying but it feels all too real to me.

I am so sorry to hear of these things going on in your life! I'm sure it's nothing but stress and worry for you. My ex-husband spent the years after our divorce threatening me with taking my children if I did anything he didn't want me to. He died in 2006. I won't go into how I feel about that.

I agree with the others, it sounds like she's high as a kite on the mania! I wish there was some way to pull her back down, but, to my knowledge, she has to crash on her own. When it hits, it'll be hard. But I hope that will bring her to wanting to get help! It's so hard when someone won't get help!

I wish I had some kind of advice to give, but I don't know of anything. I'd definitely try to see if your state has the laws protecting the grandparents' rights!

And most of all....don't you worry about length of posts! YOu get out what you need to and use as many sentences and words as you need...they can all tell you here that I'm a very, VERY long-winded individual! I have a great love of writing and so have a tendency to want to get all the details out and just right.

Please keep in touch and let us know how things go, we're here if you need us for support!

Hugs,

Zin

Hi all, I´m new here and this post really spoke to me. littlelucy, I want to share with you that though others have voiced that there´s nothing to do but wait until your daughter comes down and goes for help herself....I´d like to encourage you to find out about getting that help for her against her wishes if need be. I am of the opinion that if you were maybe to meet her at a point where she was coming home from her roller derby adventures, you could possibly call the emergency room of a hospital to come to the residence and evaluate her state. I think you could tell the hospital that you were deeply worried about her state of mind and tell them her history as a younger woman and say you think she might be having a manic episode....who´s with me here

I felt very emotional reading your daughter´s plight here tonight and flashed to a memory of me in fullblown mania, meeting my mom who´d come in from out of town, at my door naked, to blaring music, to random wingnuts in my home....this was 8 years ago and I just got my diagnosis this year. I know it´s not accurate because I´m looking back, but I wish my mom would have took one look at me that afternoon and called the nearest hospital emergency room... warmly, Em