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GeminiMom wrote: I think we started too soon, personally. I felt pressured into it because other kids at the daycare her age were potty-trained. So now she has a pretty blase attitude toward it, like, I can if I want to, but I don't always want to. And again, I think that for her, it's a control issue--the more we try to get her to go, the more she resists. She knows full well when she has to pee or poo, she just doesn't want to be bothered with leaving whatever she's doing to sit on the potty. But she's quick to let us know because she doesn't like the feel of it afterward. Plus, she's in pull-ups at daycare because they insist, but that drives me crazy because the pull-ups don't absorb the pee as well, so I have to change her more often AND they're more expensive than diapers. So I'm not sure what to do--we might end up doing the disgusting but hopefully short-lived tactic of putting her in regular cotton undies and letting her feel how gross it is if she pees/poos in them. Potty training = total suckitude.  Sherry I have a boy in my class at daycare who was the worst about going potty. 3 years old and if you said "Gavin it's time to potty!" He would immediately throw himself on the floor, "No No No." We just stopped pushing him all together. I just started saying "Gavin when you're ready to potty you just let me know and go ahead in there all by yourself." When I wasn't looking he failed to let me know, but he wanted to be in there and do it by himself and he did! We have gotten better and better. If he decides he's gonna be stubborn just say, we are not going to do (a fun thing, go somewhere) until you go use the potty. I do think it's a good idea to let them do the underwear thing. I've been told to dress them in nothing but the underwear, take them out back and let them play outside until they do their business. Then watch their reaction. My son it's perfectly fine most of the time in wet pants but will tell me "mama i poop my pants." So i just go through the we poop in the potty chair and not out pull-up. I understand your frustration with the pull-up, money issue. Pull ups do give them a little more sense of "I'm a big kid now," but if you want them potty trained and YOU are ready for it and THEY are ready for it. Take away all diapers and take 3 or 4 days with your child with wearing only the underwear. There is lots of clean up and it sucks, but it's been know to work with FAST results. When the kids understand that the diapers are GONE! most of them accept the underwear. Me personally I don't have that kind of patience. We are moving at our own pace and I'm fine with that. I started to soon too thinking I could get a good lead on it. No, it's actually not a good idea because then the only person potty training is mommy not the child. I wish you the best. Remember positive reassurance and consistency are your best bet. When you're frustrated think to yourself I want this kid trained so I'm gonna keep my cool. Don't let them win the control game. You are in control of your temper and you can play games to make it fun and easier for them to cope with. This is a big step for them too. Try letting them pretend to potty train a stuffed animal or baby doll. Hope any of this helps. If all else fails 1 skittle per potty in the pot is a good kick start! Who said a little bribery was a bad thing? Lexie |
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