Parenting Toddlers Support Group

Im very worried about my fiance not giving me that help i need when our newborn baby comes. We already have a 3year old together but we were not together during my pregnancy or when he was a newborn so he doesnt know how hard it is or can be. Ive been trying to talk to him about how hard its going to be and that i will need his help. But he is not really getting it..all he keeps saying is "I'll help you honey." I really dont have any reasurance with that. I worry he might leave because its too hard. My question is...how do i get him involved with the baby coming?

I don't know what to say to that. Both times I was pregnant my hubby coculd have cared less. And then after they were born he was scared to death of them. He helped me after they were born but just didn't feed them every meal stuff like that. He would instead bring me stuff that I needed and help with the house work. When our second was born be would take the oldest boy to do things so I wasn't overwhelmed. That worked out good. But I was scared to death the first time that I would have no help and it all worked good.

Linky

Remember, he really doesn't know whats involved (who does before you have that first one!!!!) He probably thinks he's more than prepared for whats to come which is why he seems 'flip' about it. He's putting in the effort and that is a good sign. I'm going to assume he does his part with the older child so it stands to reason that he will do his part with the new baby. A lot of guys doen't really 'bond' with the child until it gets here so I would resrve judgement on how he will be until after you have had the baby. Give him a chance. Have faith and he may surprise you! And Linky is right, sometimes the biggest help comes when they take or occupy the older child. When my infant was just on breastmilk thats how we worked it. Now we just care for whatever kid we are holding at the time!