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I don't know if anyone else has this same problem I do. I have a daughter, Her dad and I have not been together since she was 6 mon. old. Well her dad didn't help out with anything. He somehow had the state convinced he was broke. He only had to pay 24$ a month after she had turned 8 years old. He has a good paying job.(UNION BOILER) Well now he keeps telling my daughter that He gives me all this money and there for I should be giving it all to her. I have been seeing many changes in my daughter. He doesn't look out for her best interests like I do. I try explaining to him that lately her school work has gone way down. She used to be a straight A student. Now she is getting F's. She wants to live with her dad. I think that her dad is telling her white lies. (He is very good at lying) I am convinced he is trying to get her to live with him so then he won't have to pay child support. He is probably telling her that if she does he will give her the money....which is a farce! So I am afraid that her grades in school might be declining due to something on his part as well. She does really good on her tests but fails to turn in the work. Recently I have told her that her grounding for these notices was that she was going to spend 1 hour a day in those books. Even if she don't have any work to do in it. (I hope this works) I do have 3 other children as well. She is my second child. She is 14 The other thing that bothers me is her anger towards me. I didn't do anything wrong. She makes things up to people. I am not sure if she likes drama in her life. But she does act very dramatic sometimes. I try to talk to her but she just tells me nothing is wrong. Then I hear from other people like her stepmom that Sam told me you's guys are fighting. I am like we are what is it about? I didn't even know the last time I saw her she seemed happy and all. This is just an example of the things I run into! I get very frustrated. I don't even know where to begin in telling anyone about all this. I bet I could write on here all day. My biggest problem is her dad in how he gets her to lie to me. I have caught them in this a few times. It seems he keeps trying to make me out to be a bad mom. I know I am not. Everyone around me tells on how good of a mom I am. I keep telling Samantha that she has it in her to succeed. I also tell her that it will matter to her life and her life alone when it comes to her schooling. The better she does the more she can get out of life. I never got the chance to go to college..not like I want. I went right from high school into being a mom. I have explained on how she would make herself eligible for college if she was to keep her GPA up. She acts like she understands but yet I keep getting these notices that she is not even trying. Here is another thing. Samantha needs braces. I went and had her teeth checked out. And it will cost me 5 thousand dollars to get them done. Her dad says he has insurance but yet fails to get any for her. I have went through the friend of the court in doing so all I get is an extra 3$ a week for medical expense. That is not what I wanted. I wanted coverage for her. Her Dad told her he would help. NOW HE SOMEHOW HAS HER CONVINCED THAT HE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO PAY FOR IT AT ALL. THAT I NEED TO PROVIDE HER BRACES. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE SAID TO HER TO CONVINCE HER THIS! WE ARE BOTH HER PARENTS WE BOTH SHOULD PAY 1/2 EACH AT LEAST! I WOULD STILL HAVE TO TAKE A LOAN OUT FOR IT! HERE IS WHERE I FEEL HER ANGER MIGHT HAVE BEGUN. I feel that the kids shouldn't be told about the child support from the dads. At least not to try to use it against us mothers or single parents out there that are only trying to do the best thing for their kids. But how do you stop this? What should I do? well any in site that anyone might have will be greatly appreciated. |
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