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05/19/2008 19:57
leapyrbabe60
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I am new to the group and am in desperate need of prayers and advice. I will be having mahor, major surgery on June 3, 2008 and I am terrified. Due to having panic attacks, my fear of death is magnified anyways but now I am scared to death that I am going to die when I have this surgery. This is in my thoughts all the time and as the time gets closer the anxiety and panic is getting worse. I am going to a counselor and she is helping me to try and redirect my thoughts regarding this and this is the only thing we are focusing on until after the surgery. If anyone has any ideas on what they have tried to do to redirect their thoughts and how to be calmer please let me know. Thank you in advance

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05/19/2008 21:53
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Welcome to the group!!! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that your surgery will turn out fine. May I ask what kind of surgery it is? I have had over 25 different surgeries in my life time and I'm only 40. When I gave birth to my daughter, there was a 40% chance of me bleeding to death. I had a very rare conditionthat the placenta grows through the uterus into other organs. I was terrified too!!!

I just focused on other things...kept busy with family. I used what little faith I had at the time and left it in Gods hands. Try to have faith in your medical team. Get as much information about the type of surgery you're having as you can. Talk to your family about your fears and let them support you through this too. Keep going to your counselor and working on redirecting your thoughts. Post here and let others here help you too!!!

I will pray for you and a speedy recovery. Please keep in touch and let us know how you're doing.

Your friend,Chris

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05/20/2008 03:48
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Welcome! I am sorry to hear you are going to have such a major surgery soon. I know you are very anxious, as we all would be. Just try to keep in mind that God and you doctor's will be with you taking the best care of you. You will be in my thoughts
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05/20/2008 06:45
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leapyrbabe60, I know exactly how you're feeling. A year after I started having panic attacks I had to have my gall bladder taken out. I was a total mess well before the surgery and, like you, I was terrified I was going to die. What you're feeling is normal, unfortunately. Once the surgery was over I couldn't believe how much stress I put myself through beforehand, but when you are already suffering from panic attacks it's hard to get the logical thoughts through. Have you ever talked with your counselor about thought stopping exercises? It's a way to stop negative thinking and replace it with positive thoughts. When you find yourself having negative thoughts you can either yell out the word stop or put a rubberband around your wrist and snap it and force yourself to think of something positive, even if it's something you don't believe you still need to repeat it to yourself, like; "I'm going to be fine. I will get through the surgery and I will feel great!" Once you do this enough times you basically talk yourself into believeing the positive thoughts and it helps you to start feeling better.

I will be praying for you & if you need to vent just write on here and we will all be here to help you get through this.

God bless.

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05/20/2008 07:17
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What kind of surgery are you having?

When I was in the throes of my panic attacks, I had to have 2 wisdom teeth pulled and a root canal all at the same time. This caused me a TON of stress and worry. I was also pregnant at the time and had a severe phobia of dentists...

Needless to say, everything turned out perfectly and RIGHT AFTER I had my oral surgery, I was so relieved and excited that I went grocery shopping!!

The WORSE experience of that rootcanal and teeth extractions was my FEAR and WORRYING!! The dentist/shots/extraction was a piece of cake! FEAR is what caused me the pain and suffering.

What you are feeling is normal. I wish I were there to give you a big hug and to let you know that that you are not alone, and that you are going to be fine. Statistically, the possibility of death through surgery is very low. Also, God chooses WHEN we go home. Make peace with the fact that dying is not by random. it doesn't matter if you are having surgery or not, when it's time to go, it's time to go. Find PEACE in this knowledge.

Also, what helped me was to pick up an ATTITUDE. Whenever my mind started to go overdrive and think up all kinds of scarry scenarios, I would get MAD (on purpose) and say, "SO WHAT!!" - "Go ahead, make my day!"... There's a point when you just get fed up and tired of being like this and you just get MAD. Also, as a sufferer, you want to be on the OFFENSIVE side, not the defensive. When you get mad at your panic, you are offensive. Hope this makes sense.

God bless!

Helen

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05/20/2008 07:55
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leapyrbabe, I am not sure of your age, but I have had many many surgeries. When I was younger, in my late 20s and early 30s I was barely afraid when I had surgery but the older I got the more afraid I became! In 2003 when I had to have a pacemaker put in, I was terrified! I had a major panic attack and was shaking like a leaf. Finally they gave me something to calm me down but I am claustrophobic and I was awake during this particular surgery. And I couldnt stand the sheet over my face, and even with meds, I about jumped off the table, they finally had to almost put me out.

The only advice I can give you is to try to think positively and take your meds beforehand.

I too am afraid of not "making it" during surgery, too. I never used to be like that. I should have already had the heart valve/anerusym operation but I keep making excuses. The reason I dont want to is I saw the operation online and it scares me so much, I dont think I would make it. But I am working on that problem with positive thinking.

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05/20/2008 10:00
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hi leapyr due to endometriosis i have had 15 surgeries. at least where i had my surgeries you can ask for something to calm your nerves. finding out as much as you can about the surgery can help as well. sometimes we make things up in our head that makes the situation much worse than it is. knowledge is a very good nerve soother. tell your doc how frightened you are. they can probably talk to you about it to soothe your fears some or even give you something to calm you down to keep you calm until the surgery. you are in my prayers. have faith, everything will be just fine.


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05/21/2008 20:17
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I had gastric bypass surgery March 1, 2004 and the staple gun misfired. It did a lot of damage including making my pouch (new stomach) only 10cc. I have been on a feeding tube since January 2008 and they are going to try and make my intestines longer, take out the mesh that is in there that has all my insides infected and put in a biological mesh. I will have a central line put in, surgery will take at least 4 hours and I will probably be in ICU afterwards. I am really having problems changing my negative thoughts and my fear of death is overwhelming. I am going to therapy and a special counselor and we are talking a lot about this and I am trying different things to try and change my thoughts.

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05/21/2008 20:25
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I just saw my counselor and she did tell me about pretending there was a stop sign in front of me and when the thoughts get like that to say stop even if i have to say it out loud. I also talk to my husband about it and try and redirect my thoughts by doing something else to occupy my mind. My surgery is 12 days away and the closer it gets the more the panic attacks are coming and I am always anxious. Any other thoughts on how to change my negative thoughts into positive ones?

Debbie Mason


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05/21/2008 21:17
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Personally, I would seek comfort in the Lord --- Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. (Isaiah 26:3)

Talking to the doctor about your fears and asking for a little something to calm your nerves is okay too. You have every right to feel the way you do. It is not a sign of weakness, nor would the bravest of the brave feel any less than you.

The best I can say to you is that your life is in God's hands. Whether you are in surgery or sitting in your chair at home -- His timing is perfect. Rest in that knowledge and place faith that He knows what is best. Pray for peace and seek comfort from scriptures, and from those you love. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers (I really mean it.)

Blessings!

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