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03/15/2011 07:11 PM

Panic Attacks and Sex?

worldinmyeyes
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Do any of you have a problem of sex causing Panic Attacks. I find myself holding back during sex, fearing the physical exersion, heat , and heavy breathing will cause a panic attack. Sex has given me panic attacks on many occasions and its quiet embarrasing. Now when I am lucky enough to have sex. I dont let myself go and truly get into the moment of it all my mind is thinking( if this feeling intensifies its going to turn into a full on think I dieing panic attack). This makes sex much less enjoyable for me and my partners also dont get the kind of experience Im used to giving. I used to exercise vigoursly daily and since my affliction I have given exercise up cause the physical exersion seems to cause the same panic attacks. I appreciate and constructive advice any of you may have regarding this very embarrasing and sensitive subject...Eric
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03/16/2011 01:05 AM
kristylr
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Believe it or not Eric, this is not an uncommon problem with panic and anxiety. Lots of things can help in dealing with this problem though. (please pardon my bluntness in this post)

One thing you can do that I was even instructed to do by a therapist was masturbate, it's not as strenuous as when you're with a partner but by repeating the effort and sensation in a more controlled atmosphere you can reprogram your brain and body to accept the sensations in a more "normal" manner.

Also, get back into exercising, I know that the physical exertion causes some of the symptoms and can be a major trigger but again, the more you do it the more your body and mind will re-adapt to the sensations.

If you have a regular partner, talk to them and do your research online, there are numerous positions and techniques that don't require as much physical exertion but still provide all the pleasure. You can also see a therapist that specializes in sexual matters (your regular psych can refer you to one in your area) and they can give you further ideas to help you deal with this.

I'm not sure what, if any, medications you take, but if you take something like valium or klonopin for sudden onset attacks then you may consider taking a dose directly before intercourse to subdue the body's physical reactions (increased heart rate, raised b/p, etc) which will help reduce the anxieties and the med will obviously also help with the actual anxiety attack should one occur.

Take heart though, you're definitely not the first to go through this and there are ways of overcoming it.


03/16/2011 06:56 AM
PhilPhil46
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Sex is calming to me. I Enjoy it, but never associated the sensations with a panic attack? I think if we are thinking or focusing on the similarities of a panic attack, it could trigger one. Start off slow, caressing, foreplay, experince the sensations slowly, then get more vigirous and into it more and more. With practice and time and a partner willing to work with you, it can once again be very enjoyable, relaxing and calming. Sex is one thing panic is not going to rob me of! Smile Materbating is a great release as well. Do or not do what you are comfortable with, as far as your anxiety level and panic, you don't want sex to be a panic trigger.

03/16/2011 07:00 AM
jenny1978
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I agree with Phil 100%. And yes, masturbating is a great release!!! Smile

03/16/2011 07:49 AM
AmyGirl
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This is great information that I need to apply to myself. I have this same problem. I get scared to over exert myself in fear of my heart going to fast so I just lay there and let my husband do all the work. lol Poor thing. I too don't do strenuous exercise anymore for the same reason. I have a fear of getting my heart rate so fast that is will just go out of control and I will not be able to get it to slow down. Things have gotten better though I must say beings I have gotten better but still this is one thing I need to work on myself. Good luck!!!SmileSmile

03/16/2011 10:51 AM
PhilPhil46
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Dr. Oz: Vaginismus – Vaginal Panic Attacks & Cures for Vaginismus.

WTF?! Am I reading this right? Omg! Have any of you ever have this?

Doctor Oz discussed Vaginismus, when you get panic attacks in your vagina, which can make having sex extremely difficult or even impossible. I had no idea that you could get panic attacks in your vagina!

Romantic young couple having sex from Yuri Arcurs WebsiteRonnie, from seat 43, helped Dr. Oz to discuss vaginal panic attacks. We have all had back spasms before… imagine that in your pelvic area, and that is what Vaginismus feels like.

Vaginismus or Vaginal Panic Attack Causes:

1. Urinary Tract Infections or Other Infections

2. Yeast Infections

3. Menopause (because your muscles atrophy)

4. Sexual Diseases

5. Psychological Issues

One cure for Vaginismus or panic attacks in your vagina is biofeedback. Biofeedback helps you to train your body by placing sensors on your body and showing you on a screen what it looks like when you tense certain muscles. That way you can learn to train yourself to relax those muscles. If you suffer from vaginal panic attacks, talk to your OBGYN about biofeedback

http://www.drozfans.com/dr-ozs-advice/dr-oz-vaginismus- vaginal-panic-attacks-cures-for-vaginismus/


03/16/2011 12:28 PM
PhilPhil46
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Panic Attacks and Sex?

Everybody enjoys sex and it is clear why this is a reality. The problem is there are many possible situations and conditions that could lead to one not enjoying such a pleasurable activity. One of them is an anxiety attack and few people actually expect this to be a problem. We heard of different cases of older men dying when undergoing sexual acts but when such an anxiety problem happens to you, in most cases you will not say anything and just hope it will go away. This is not a good approach and you have to do something about it.

Post Coital Anxiety Syndrome

When it comes to sex and anxiety attacks there is a big chance we are dealing with Post Coital Anxiety Syndrome (also known as PCAS). It is a condition that is not known by many because you will only find out about if after suffering from different anxiety reactions that appear after the sexual act is over or after some time.

We are dealing with both men and women having problems with post coital adrenaline surges while fighting anxiety conditions in the same time. In most cases the anxiety attack symptoms will appear after orgasm, in a time frame of one to three hours after sexual climax, usually while the person is sleeping. Individuals will end up being awakened by an unexplained rush of adrenaline that will stimulate wakefulness and an unexpected feeling of anxiety that shows high intensity. This post coital anxiety syndrome usually leads to a person fearing sexual relations and even getting to experience insomnia. Contrary to popular belief, both men and women are affected to the same possible degree.

If we were to boil it down to the essence, the human body ends up feeling a different form of arousal, one that is similar to the one obtained through fearful thinking and anger. Energy is built and then we get to a climax and it disappears while leaving the individual without energy, exhausted. If the person goes to sleep, this energy remains unaltered and it will eventually appear after some time as an adrenaline surge.

It will wake up the individual and he/she will react to the intensity felt. There are different possible reactions including sitting up in bed, shortness of breath, tingly sensation in extremities, anxiousness or being tense. The surges of energy felt might also be accompanied in some cases by dizziness, sweating or racing heart sensation. When feeling these symptoms the individual will wonder what is going on or will think that they are having a heart attack, fearing possible death. The reason why all this happens is only adrenaline and everything is very similar to a regular anxiety attack.

Solutions for Post Coital Anxiety Syndrome

When talking about treatment solutions available, there is no difference between PCAS and other possible anxieties that lead to panic attacks. In our particular case we need to deal with the surge of energy appearing in order to have a solution. If the individual would rise from the bed and start walking while moving the excess in energy around, combining everything with slow breathing, he/she would get rid of the episode a lot faster.

In most cases the person suffering from such an anxiety attack ends up thinking they are having a heart attack or have a fear that the feelings will never stop, thus amplifying the symptoms. The reason why this happens is that another fear is added to the initial one, thus obtaining two at the price of one.

Dealing with PCAS requires the same approach as regular anxiety disorders. For starters, if you are suffering from such an event, the first thing you need to be able to do is stop thinking about “what if” possibilities. It would only make things worse and you are actually thinking about facts that are not real. This attack will not kill you and your heart will not stop because of the energy you feel.

You will need to get up and start walking slowly in order to expend the energy that appeared due to adrenaline. Also, you have to add anti anxiety skills that are to be gained through various cognitive behavioral treatment solutions available. Get up from the bed and walk around the house! Quiet secondary fears by simply not thinking about them and keep telling yourself that all you feel is an adrenaline surge that will soon disappear as you walk a little.

This simple talking to yourself technique is enough to deal with PCAS in most cases. Dissipate the adrenaline as you walk through the room and think about being calm, breathe slowly and everything will fall back into place while letting you sleep.

Specialist Help

When dealing with PCAS, in some cases it is harder to cope with the situation at hand and rarely do we notice individuals being able to handle the event without specialist help. People tend to stop having sex and this could immediately lead to marriages being broken because the person affected will hide the condition and the reason for why there is no more sexual activity in the couple. Having such a serious problem on our hands, it is plain to see why there is an immediate need to do something about it.

The first step is letting your spouse now what is going on. Next comes the need to go and get some therapy. By therapy we mean cognitive behavioral treatment and even prescription drugs from your doctor (but only if they are needed). The problem with medication is that it can become addictive and will not treat the anxiety but will only mask it through the effect of the medicine.

Learning breathing techniques and positive thinking while avoiding stress are crucial in dealing with any anxiety disorder out there including post coital anxiety syndrome. In fact, any panic attack causing condition can be treated so there is no need to think that you can not be cured. The doctors will help and you will learn how to handle everything. Best of all, you will be able to undergo sexual relationships without fear of anxiety appearing and affecting you while you sleep.

http://www.solvepanicattacks.com/different-types-of-anxiety/ sex-and-anxiety-attacks.html


03/16/2011 06:09 PM
leandrat

I feel the same way it took me a long time to be able to enjoy sex without panic and not want to think only about breathing and staying as calm as possible its getting better now that I have learned how to breath to make it easier but sometimes I still have a hard time with it but I know like everything else in time and doing it only makes it easier

Lee


07/15/2013 08:43 PM
nikimom23
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Okay this is my problem. I am turning 38 in a bit more then a week, and it has been about a year since the last time aunt flow visited me. I found out recently that I suffer from panic attacks (found when they did my iron iv transfusion).Thing is besides being tired I enjoyed having second with my hubby esp him on top us facing each other. (sorry if tmi)but lately when we are in that position I start to freak out. I feel really hot and like I can't breathe and heart pounds and we end up stopping. I feel bad for hubby cause it isn't his fault but I also can't help it either. Any suggestions?

07/15/2013 09:05 PM
kildare56
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Eric, let me throw in a male point of view here. I suspect this may apply to the ladies also, but to a much lesser degree. It is my conviction that the number one problem with sex for males especially is that we need to stop having sex and start making love. Huge difference. When we focus on our partner more than ourselves, or minds are too occupied for panic in most cases. I have to differ a bit with nikimom too. You need more variety than the standard "man on top, get it over with quick" approach. Let her take charge on occasion. Try a variety of positions. As you know, Eric, men are primarily visually stimulated. Use that knowledge for a better experience. Again though, the combination of focusing on the lady and using variety is the key. Variety is stimulated by breaking your own preconceptions down and using the primary sexual organ; the mind. Hell, what do I know?
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