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07/28/2008 15:49
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My beautiful daughter Jeni is losing hope. She's been having panic attacks and agoraphobia for five months now. I came home from work today and she was really sad and crying. She said she had a panic attack today and she can't stand the way she is anymore. I encouraged her that better days are ahead, but I could tell she didn't believe me. I feel so useless to bring her out of this! What do you do when you want to give up on getting better? Best regards, Denise
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07/28/2008 19:07
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That's so hard to answer... because what you said was the truth. That it will get better, but it takes time. You don't want to start telling her lies. Agraphobia is when you don't want to leave the house right?

If you could get her to go, medications might help. My doc put me on some to stop mine and they've done wonders.

Maybe she could take up a new hobby? I find knitting very soothing.

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07/28/2008 19:42
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Agoraphobia is just that - fear of leaving your home. It started with panic attacks and has now also become agoraphobia. Nothing seems to be working - she's on meds, sees a counselor and does crosstitching as a hobby. We just don't know where to go from here. She's only 30 years old and it is heartbreaking to see the control these conditions have over her. I know God has more in store for her life than this. Do you have panic attacks? Thank you very much for your support. Sincerely, Denise
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07/29/2008 04:30
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I didn't have them until my 30s and then I had a total break down, depressed, passive suicidal, and panic attacks all rolled into one. I thought I was losing my mind, I didn't know what was happening to me. I'd never had a panic attack in my life before and it terrified me. I was so scared and didn't know what to do which really only made it worse. I didn't know what they were until I told my doctor what was happening and she just smiled gently and told me what it was.

I have a self destructive streakon top of everything so finding an outlet to work out my anxiety and fears.... that's been something of a challange. It's a slow road for me but I'm slowly gettig somewhere.

Do you know what's causing the attacks?

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07/29/2008 06:08
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I'm so sorry to hear that Jeni is doing so badly right now. I can totally understand the way she feels, I was there too. It's really hard to find hope when you feel like your life has been taken over by panic and fear and it really feels like you are powerless to control it.

She has to realize somehow that she CAN control at least some of what's happening to her. That's the only way she's going to begin the slow climb to getting better. The meds and counseling can only do so much, the rest is going to have to come from within. I started to overcome this by slowly taking my life back from it. It's really hard, I'm not gonna lie, but if she's determined enough SHE CAN DO IT!! It might have made a difference for me because I felt I HAD TO go back to work, for the financial well being of my family, but the point is that I was as low as she is, I felt I was losing my mind, and now I've regained most of my life back from this terrible disorder.

She can't give up hope. If she's sick of being like that, she's going to have to become determined and work hard to get herself out of it...she just needs to find something to fuel her determination. She also needs to realize that SHE HAS THE POWER WITHIN HERSELF to do something about this, no matter how hard or scary or frustrating it seems to get started, SHE'S GOT THE POWER, it just takes time.

I'm here to talk anytime you or she might need to.

Your friend, Sandy

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07/29/2008 07:12
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I'm real sorry to hear about your daughter. I think the worst part of panic attacks is the way they suppress us. This suppression makes things feel worse than they really are.

For panic attacks I keep a journal. I write down everything I can about the attack. When it started, what it feels like, and what I think triggered it and keeps it around. Besides writing about my attacks I also write about good days when I have no attacks. I write about good days to remind me that my feelings of hopelessness have a time frame. They begin and they do END. **If your daughter doesn't like writing she may want to use a tape recorder. I find it easier and faster. No spelling mistakes

I wish I had some good advice about agoraphobia. I have social phobia but it has not reached the level of agoraphobia. I looked on the internet and found these websites, you may find something in them:

What is Agoraphobia

http://panicdisorder.about.com/cs/agorabasics/a/ agoraphobia101.htm

Agoraphobia - MayoClinic

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/agoraphobia/DS00894

Agoraphobia Resource Center

http://www.agoraphobia.ws/

I think your daughter is fortunate to have a mother who is willing to seek out assistance on her behalf. Family like you are a godsend!

AJ

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07/29/2008 12:24
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The attacks come out of the blue most of the time. Sometimes, if she's even thinking of leaving the house, one will happen. I'm sorry you and everyone else has to go through such pain. I know it isn't easy for anyone. I'm so lucky I came across this site with such helpful people! I know that God loves each and every one of us more than you can imagine - JUST THE WAY WE ARE! The days we are given are gifts from above, so today we must remember to live and to love (lines from a fav song). Please don't hurt yourself anymore Lady. You are here helping me and others, you deserve so much more! Take care. May you walk in the comfort of God's loving arms. Denise
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07/29/2008 12:39
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Thank you. I have Jeni read all of your wonderful responses. I just helped her through another panic attack. She is sleeping now. I stayed home from work today to be with her. I'll wake her soon and encourage her to take a walk with me. Thanks for just listening, I have nowhere else to turn. My husband is very understanding, but I see how upset he gets when I talk about it with him, so I try to handle this myself. You are an inspiration to us all. Sincerely, your friend, Denise
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07/29/2008 12:45
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Thank you AJ, you gave some very good advice. Jeni's counselor is having her journal her panic attacks - but not her good days. That really does make sense to do the good days as well. I will mention that. My grandson's name is AJ! Thanks again for your help! Take care and God Bless! Sincerely, Denise
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07/29/2008 16:12
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Let me tell you something. When my panic attacks started about 4 years ago, i was a MESS....i couldn't leave the house at all! I didn't want to eat, i couldn't sleep at night, i felt wierd all day, always thought about dying, dizzy and it was horriable! So i finally went to the dr. and they put me on med's which was a god send!!!! Within a couple of weeks i was starting to go out more and eat more and things finaly got back to normal! I was able to go back to work which was great for me. It takes a while to get there but trust me, it does get better. It is a big control thing also. Once you learn how to control your attacks, the attacks don't get out of hand. You have to find your own way of doing it though. I usally have to lay down and listen to a talk show on the radio or something to ease my mind. Everyone is different. I hope this helps!
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