Panic Attacks Support Group

Edit: I just told him I'd give him all my money if he would just go away, and he shoved me and said deal with it.

I'm really sorry if this is slightly off-topic, but I'm so lost.

It's summer vacation, and I've been feeling great...up until now. I have a huge problem. You see, my oldest brother moved back in because his roommates were bothering him, and because he can't afford the rent. The reason he can't afford it is because he blows all his money on cigarrettes, beer, and pot.

He's out of control, and right now I'm currently hiding in my room with the door locked. I'm really worried though, because my mom is downstairs. He abused me once, but he abuses her more. They just got in a fight, and he's cursing up a storm. I'm afraid he'll hurt her.

My dad doesn't get home from work till later, and although my other brother is here and he tries to protect her, my oldest brother can easily kill him, because he nearly did once.

My oldest brother is the main reason for my extreme anxiety. I already took my medication for today, but I took another one because I'm feeling very anxious.

I don't know what to do. He absolutely refuses to go to counseling, therapy, anger management, ect. He's a selfish jerk who always wants his way. I hate that he's my brother, because I hate him.

What should my family do about him? My mom doesn't want to call the police because she's afraid we'll be taken away, but I have my phone right near me ready to dial 911. Should I do it?

Please, please help.

Post edited by: WrestlingGal, at: 07/04/2008 12:32

Post edited by: WrestlingGal, at: 07/04/2008 12:47

something really needs to be done about your older brother. before he kills someone. i understand the fear your mom is feeling, not only of losing you and the younger brother, but also for retribution. but if she reports him and gets a restraining order (as long as she goes along with the restraining order and reports anytime he breaks it) things should get better. if your older brother is arrested, there is a good chance he will be ordered to get councelling or go to jail. if he has already been arrested for violence, he will go to jail.

try to talk to your mom when he isn't around, like if he goes out with friends. if your mom won't do anything, maybe talk to your dad with the younger of your brothers. if dad won't get him out, then you may have to call the cops yourself.

good luck hon, i hope things get better for you