Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Support

Yes I understand your anxiety at the unevenness. This has also been the vicious circle for me too. You can't see the the mistakes in it quite so much when it is really short and then when it grows and you can it causes major anxiety and then you just HAVE to cut it. But this time, believe it or not and I think I believe it, that I have got the technique right and I desperately don't want do any more to it ever again. I would be so over the moon if I could get my hair to a reasonable thickness.

I think it is very difficult for me to get the layers right because my hair is so thick, and it needs a lot of layers in it to look as if it has a good style. So it's not as if I can just have a few snips here and a few there and it will look good. I have to get each layer parallel to the next layer and then the same length from the scalp. Precision is the key as well as the technique.

But these are the types of thoughts I will need to ignore if I really want to be successful this time. I will never get to the length I wanting if I stress about slight imperfections. Can't wait till it's long enough to go to a professional hairdresser and then break this cycle of haircutting that has lasted for so so long - much of my life actually. When was my last hair appointment at a hairdressers I wonder? About 15 years ago at least I think!

Lets all do it. Lets stop this extremely draining and anxiety provoking behaviour and have hair to be proud of by the Spring/Summer!

I'll be routing for you too Cindy.

xx

Post edited by: linda123, at: 02/21/2012 03:02 PM

Yesi

But it's good to know that your not alone and can share tips and encouragement with others to get better.

As you say better not to check as for me I know it's always the precursor to cutting. I try to avoid mirrors too and just keep busy.

Yesi - Good for you Yesi! It's good to be positive and hopeful and determined. I'm not going to fail this time I tell you. I've had enough. I've got more fight in me this time. It's just a shame hair doesn't grow quicker than it does! Mine seems to take forever to grow even when I don't cut it and I wonder if it might be down partially to hormones as I'm now 47 and partly anxiety I think. I have a good diet and also take an A to Z vitamin, vitamin E and Omega 3 daily, so I should be healthy enough and am getting more exercise.

If I don't cut it should grow though. It's just got to!

Hope everyone is ok.

Love to all. xx

I have become more aware of my triggers, done some soul searching. Just like my MS, it isn't one things that makes you better....but rather a bunch of little things all added together and applied. That seems to be helping me gain ground with the OCD. I have more resources now, to not cut. More understanding of the whole cycle and mindset.

It really is geting better. Can't say I won't ever have a setback. But even when I do now, they are short and I bounce back and get back in stride quickly.

- Cindy

- Cindy

Linda you are right about growing vs cutting. If you think about it your hair only grows a small amount every day and it is the cummulative effect of not cutting where we see improvement. Even if we cut very little in a week we have lost the growth for that week. We may not have gone backward but we didn't gain any either. I think that is why I get so depressed when I even think about wanting to snip!

Yesi

Yes I have often thought that is what is probably happening. Doing my best not to sabotage the growth. But if we fail, then we shouldn't beat ourselves up either, and just try again.

It's like having a little devil on your shoulder all the time tempting you to cut your hair. 'just a few snips', 'go on' 'you know you want to' 'one little snip won't hurt'.

Well this is what I've got to say to this little devil!

Lets fight the urge. Do something else and stop looking in mirrors. xx

Its been a long time since I've been on here but I've been reading all the posts. Having a real tough time at the minute - been signed off work again with depression/anxiety for the second time since last september. Having major 'hair obsessions'. I dont cut it myself now - but I panic that its uneven or when my roots start showing through so I'm constantly going to different hairdressers to try and get it fixed - although of course its never right and the whole cycle starts again. Its much worse in the mornings - its the first thing I think about when I wake up then i spend hours redoing my hair to try and make it look 'normal'. Everyone tells me 'its only hair, it doesnt matter' but thats not much help! Frightened Im going to lose my job now. Any support would be much apprecaited. Love and hugs to all. penny x