help with a boyfriend

I need an advice and help from anyone who is willing to give it or offer.

I have been with my boyfriend for the past 2 years and its been a very rocky-loving relationship. It feels as if he had 2 different personalities where sometimes he is Mr. Jackyl and sometimes Dr. Hyde. One minute he says how much he loves me and cares and that i am the best thing in his life, and that he wouldnt be where he is if it wasnt for me. On the other hand, his constant aggression and mood swings are driving me nuts. I am constantly crying because I've invested a lot of time, money and nerves into this relationship and it feels as if it is slipping through my hands as sand.

I think my boyfriend might have some kind of disorder or something because when he gets angry he asks (technically yells) me to leave or slams the door and goes away.

I dont live with him but I am about 1-2 blocks away from his house. He is 7 years older then I am, and he acts like a 5 year old sometimes!

The reason I'm writing , I need some advice on what happened last night...

So this is what happened:

The day before yesterday, we were playing pool and my ball was almost in the hole so i pushed a table to tip it so that way i can score. Apparently i got table out of balance (big deal?!). So yesterday when we were playing pool, my boyfriend was having trouble getting balls into the holes and started blaming me that i am the one who is causing him to loose due to the fact that i got it out of the balance. Anyways, i told him that i dont think i was able to push the table 2 inches off because the table is like 300pounds and i am only 150! He took that offensively, and said that I was calling him a liar! Needless, I forgot to say that he is very conservative and a total redneck with a stubborn personality.

going back to the story...

I tried defending myself that i didnt call him a liar and that i just didnt think i was able to move the table that far by myself. I guess i really struck his cherry of anger that he got mad. He left the house for 2 hours and then i saw him outside. When i tried making contact with him, he told me to get out or the relationship is over.

I left and i tried calling him this morning, but he hung up the phone twice, so i sent him a textmessage to tell him that i love him and that i wanted us to talk.

Anyways i still havent heard back from him, i am getting more and more convinced that something is going on with him and that its ruining my life as of now.

I need some advice on how i can fix the relationship otherwise i dont know what will happen and how to deal with anything.

Thanks for reading my blab and hopefully I can get some feedback.

the problem is, if he doesn't realize he has a problem there is nothing you can do unless his family and/or friends back you up. otherwise he will just think you are making it up and get angry. if you have a good relationship with his family try talking to them when he isn't around. see what they say and if they will back you up.

good luck.

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Only you know what you can deal with. If you feel that you are being dragged under then my advise would be to let go. Never let someone abuse you mentally or otherrwise. It's not worth it..love is great, but there are others out there who will love you too...as soon as you love yourself and feel you deserve better treatment. sometimes we women are just too nice.

I agree with lostgurl...whatever the problem is he will never get better until he acknowledges that there is a problem with him. He has to take responsibility for it...you can only support him.