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Mental Health Family ForumsGeneral & Supportmy husband is so depressed!
12/04/2010 11:08 PM
marriedtoit
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My husband (who has bipolar disorder) had lofty and unrealistic expectations for the book of his short stories a tiny tiny press put out recently. He has crashed badly, realizing that no media will review a book from a tiny press, and that many of his so-called friends (if the situation were reversed, my husband was buying THEIR book and promoting it everywhere he could) were really just taking his time and largesse but not willing to give back. I am so disgusted that people would kick a man when he is down. And I am sick to my stomach at the way my husband was treated throughout this process.
All of my advice is based on experience and reading. I am not a medical doctor, and have never even played one on TV.
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12/05/2010 12:06 AM  Top
lollipop
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I hate the way he is being treated, as well, married. Is his book available for other people to purchase? I would love to read his short stories! I'm sorry he is so depressed. It will probably take time to get past the disappointment he feels. And it is never easy to realize when people you considered to be your friends let you down.
YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT!!!! IF I DID...ANYONE CAN.

Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” Lewis B. Smedes

I am not a doctor, my advice is purely my opinion.

12/05/2010 07:36 AM  Top
hopefulcb
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I am so sorry married, people can be so heartless and cruel. I am sure thay could see is passion about it, and they were wrong to build his hopes up. That's just wrong!

Hopeful

It isn't my husband's fault he has an illness. It is his responsibility on how he treats it so he doesn't hurt others or himself in the midst of it.

My opinion, is just that, I am here to share my experience, strength and hope to those whose lives have been affected by this disorder :)

"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place."
~ Unknown

12/05/2010 09:05 AM  Top
enoughalready
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I am sorry married, that is so unfair.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

12/05/2010 11:00 AM  Top
stolenheart
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Do you have a link, married? I use one of the games I play to network, so I might be able to reach a small audience.
Dx: PTSD
Med: Zoloft, Wellbutrin

Group Leader: http://www.mdjunction.com/post-partum-depression

I am not a doctor or a trained counselor and all advice is opinion only. When in doubt, seek the advice of a medical professional.

I am currently doing research in the scientific literature on the topic of Bipolar Disorder. If you see recent articles, feel free to send them to me. Thank you.

12/05/2010 02:06 PM  Top
marriedtoit
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Thank you, Stolen! I will put this in a PM for you! You are wonderful!
All of my advice is based on experience and reading. I am not a medical doctor, and have never even played one on TV.

12/05/2010 05:20 PM  Top
Imnoangel
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U know I'm here for you, dear. Smile HUG!!!!!!!!

Sometimes life is too unfair. Sad

Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow.
Dan Rather

"In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time."
Anthony J. D'Angelo

"You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith."
Mary Manin Morrissey

First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win. Gandhi


I am not a doctor and my advice is purely based on opinion and personal experience and should be regarded as such.

12/05/2010 08:56 PM  Top
marriedtoit
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Day Two of hubby's deep depression. I almost think I am better at dealing with mania than this. I can actually DO things to help when he is hypomanic. With depression, nothing I do seems to matter for long, help for long. He is taking his "as needed" drug (now Valium) at about 3/4 of the maximum the pdoc allowed per day.

Send positive thoughts and prayers our way, please.

All of my advice is based on experience and reading. I am not a medical doctor, and have never even played one on TV.

12/05/2010 09:12 PM  Top
hopefulcb
hopefulcb
 
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(((((((MARRIED))))))))) & lots of prayers too!

Hopeful

It isn't my husband's fault he has an illness. It is his responsibility on how he treats it so he doesn't hurt others or himself in the midst of it.

My opinion, is just that, I am here to share my experience, strength and hope to those whose lives have been affected by this disorder :)

"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place."
~ Unknown

12/05/2010 09:38 PM  Top
stolenheart
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Prayers, for you and your husband, Married! {{{hugs}}}

Depression really is a life-sucker. Ugh! I don't know if it will help him to know, but your husband is in the back of my mind often, when I wonder if I did the right thing regarding Jack. If Jack was there for me half of what it seems your hubs is there for you, there'd be no question I'd be in England ASAP! He'd be able to talk me into just about anything! lol!

Dx: PTSD
Med: Zoloft, Wellbutrin

Group Leader: http://www.mdjunction.com/post-partum-depression

I am not a doctor or a trained counselor and all advice is opinion only. When in doubt, seek the advice of a medical professional.

I am currently doing research in the scientific literature on the topic of Bipolar Disorder. If you see recent articles, feel free to send them to me. Thank you.
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