MusicMamma

Pot is a mental, lifestyle addiction but its not physical. If your partner can get past two weeks it will all be easier. Then its just a matter of choice. As fasr as depression goes... I used to be terribly depressed. Pot made my life manageable. Then after a couple weeks, I realized that it was pot that was hiolding me down.

Do some research on seratonin and endorphins. They are brain chemicals that relate to happiness. When THC takes their place (thay fit the same receptors much like nicotene) You body stiops producing its natural chemicals. So your partner will quit, go throiugh a dark period of a couple weeks and then he should start fgeeling better.

BTW, if he is serious about quitting, he will be happy to prove your suspicions wrong by drug testing. And do it in a lab, home tests can be faked with a $12 drink.

sometimes you have to hurt someone to save them. but in the end all you have is yourself, and you need to be there for your children.

My uncle is an alcoholic and when my aunt left him, he swore up and down he was going to get sober. They have been apart for 3 years now, my aunt is remarried and my uncle has a girlfriend, but is still very much an alcoholic.

So i think he might be using that as a way to keep you around. but stay strong. send me a message if theres anything i can do.

I have left him.

I finally decided on Friday that this was the last time I would accept being lied to and accept all of the mind games he is so good at playing.

I had a mini breakdown last night (you know the uncontrollable sobbing and feeling of complete emptiness kinda thing...) but I reassured myself that in time this would pass.

I gave myself permission to feel sad for the evening and then told myself that in the morning I needed to start picking up the pieces and let myself let go.

This is tough, but with support and self determination I know I will come out on top.

I keep thinking in the back of my mind that MAYBE he will get help and then come back to me, but the logical side of me is telling me not to get my hopes up and just move on.

Thank you for your support, I am going to stay strong and stick with my choice to leave.

The only way I would even consider a reconsiliation is if he was undergoing some sort of rehab or support groups etc.

But even then...I don't know, he has lied so much it is hard to think I could ever believe him again.

I'm sorry because I know it hurts you and you want a relationship with a "sober boyfriend." He isn't capable of doing that right now.

He may want to get clean when he has enough negative consequences in his life. Most addicts at least attempt sobriety when they have negative consequences.

My boyfriend stopped smoking pot when I asked him to. I had him do a couple of drug tests and he was more than happy to prove his sobriety.

You know what is best for you and your children. You just have to find the strength to stick to it for long enough. You will see how much better your life can get when there isn't addiction in it.

Best of luck to you. You can PM me anytime.

Your friend,Chris

Everyone has been telling me to leave him for years now.

The things I love about him are the things that I see when he looks me in the eyes and holds me close...I know silly.

In time the pain will minimize, I know this too.

Maybe if I tell myself that doing this will help save him, I may be able to manage even more.

Thank you for your kind words.

I hope for his sake that he does reach out for help and gets into a treatment program. Life is so much beter without drugs and alcohol!!

If there is anything you need, please let me know. You can PM me anytime. Your friend,Chris

ill keep you in my prayers and stay strong.

when a relationship ends there's a "grieving process" one must go through, and its painful i know. but we all know you can do it!

and dont forget (this part is the hardest for me) be patient! things will come in due time

His latest tactics are that of manipulation.

One day he begs me to come back and that he promises to not use again, the next day he tells me that family is asking questions (he knows how much the family means to me), and today he is sending messages accusing me of being with someone else.

It is SO HARD to not respond in any way.

In my heart and in my defense I want to reply and reassure him, but in my head I know that if I do he will manipulate the situation to his favor.

I really hate that I am even in this position to begin with...