Marijuana Addiction Support Group

Wow, reading some of the posts I finally feel as though there may be someone out there with a life like mine. I have been married to an addict for 20 years and this past fall after numerous jobs and quitting long enough for the drug test, he landed his dream job. He had to clean up to pass it and ended up being so ill that he convinced himself that he had something seriously wrong with his stomach. Symptom of withdrawal. I stood beside him going from dr to specialist to tell him nothing was wrong. He went away for 2 weeks for work and "rekindled" a friendship while away and then came home to tell me he was not happy and left me and our 2 daughters. After 2 months away, back on the weed, he came home to tell me he was an idiot and wanted to come home. Since then he is back on the weed and has not really worked much. His "friend" is still calling/texting and I have told him that he needs to end it for us to heal, he called her to tell her but she is still texting. He claims they were never more than friends in his eyes, but she wanted more.

I am now dealing with an addiction to pot and an addiction to another woman.

I am going to see a counsellor on wednesday with hopes to help with my insecurities and low self esteem that have come from the turmoil that I have been in for the last 8 months.

I am waiting for my light bulb to come on to really have this all make sense.

He can make more money in 3 months than most make in a year so the finances are not an issue for him, just passing another test is the issue. I have had to carry us in the past but now if he can keep the job it will never be an issue. He also would have bragged to his "friend" the kind of money that he makes and right away she wanted him to move in with her. (as of course she is now divorced, she dumped my husband to marry another guy and just thought that she could pick up where they left off 22 years ago) Insane!!!

My family and friends that are closest to me are waiting by to pick up the pieces.

Only problem is that I love him. I have never stopped even through all the crap.

I may be addicted to an addict.

Post edited by: hurtinginluv, at: 05/20/2012 09:36 PM

I understand. That's all I can say. I wish I could tell you what to do, but I don't know myself. All I can say is I understand.

I hope the counseling helps you to take care of YOU. You are addicted, codependency is exactly that- being addicted to another person. It's trying to play God in their life, thinking you can be their savior. It took me SO long for this to REALLY sink in. I knew it logically, but not deep in my heart like I do now. It wasn't until I finally let go completely that I healed, and now my husband is seeking recovery himself. I didn't leave him to "make" him quit the pot, I left totally for me. And I'm willing to divorce him if he doesn't quit, because that's what's best for ME. He knows that and doesn't want to lose me, so he's finally seeking help- for HIMSELF. I can't be involved in his recovery, because I will try and run it and take over. I need to stay separated until we are both on our way to healed. If you can, give your man to your higher power- his addiction, his new "friend", and focus on YOU. It's so worth it!