Marijuana Addiction Support Group

hi there,

I will try to make my history short. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. When I met him he was smoking and I knew he had done it since he was 11 years old. He has always had an issue with drugs since he was a kid. He has tried all types of drugs and he has been in rehab 3 times, and now he only do marihuana ( since more than 10 years ). He had a terrible accident 5 years ago and all his fingers were amputated, he lost his right leg muscle and he became from a very handsome guy to a burned one ( 80% of his body is burned). he used to do motorcicle, exercise all the time,skydiving, skying but now he cannot do all that. He just plays the drumps really good!!

He always says marihuana calms the pain of the amputation and also himself. His life changed a 100% after the accident and every morning he ask me to massage his hands and his legs because it hurts him. He smokes from the time he wakes up til he goes to bed. He smokes everywere and he says it is ok because it is legal in 15 states.

We are planning to get married in June but now that it comes closer I dn't know if I want to go through all this. I love him and I have to tell you that he has taugh me a lot of things: being happy eventhoutgh he is all burned. He always says to me to be happy just for being alive, he makes jokes all the time, He works everyday in his own company, he is really smart, funny, great boyfriend, he wants to please me in every manner, he is great with kids, he loves me so much and support all my dreams and my list will never end but I can't stand the smell and I fell ashamed when he smells to marihuana around peolpe.I grew up in a family were no drugs were used. I grew up knowing marihuana was bad so it is like a chip I have for more than 37 years.

I would love for him to stop, but I can understand if once in a while he has to smoke instead of taking pills that makes him stay in bed or depress him, but everytime I talk about the subject he gets really mad he says he is not an addict and that he needs it to calm the pain.However I know he is just ok without it because we went to europe to get some papers done and he knew he couldn't smoke for two months to pass the exam an he did just beautifully. I want to have kids and I dont' know how I will deal with this subject when it comes to time. I also have friends who tells me they will never leave their kids in homes were people do drugs and that really hurts me because I love children and I am very responsable. My family doesn't know, some of my friends do but the most important person I think is my right?

Everytime we go out he smells really bad. His car, his clothing, his skin, the purse he carries all the time with the pipe and the marihuana inside. His eyes turne red and he cannot talk properly.

It is terrible for me that don;t smoke.

I dont know what to do!

I too married my husband knowing he smoked. Alot. The only thing that got hime to quit was his new line of work. ( they drug test)

So it`s really up to him to quit. My family had no idea until i told them(when he had quit. I remember the day i saw him with white eyes. I couldn`t belive how white they were.

If it upsets you , is this something you want to be married to.. Just a something to think about. Hope something works out for you. keep in touch

If you're not sure now, please re-think it. You don't want to get down the road, have kids, and he's still addicted. Like me....although, I thought my husband had quit when I married him, or I wouldn't have (and he knew it, so he hid it). He always wanted me AND the pot....after 22 years, I finally made him choose. It looks like he's choosing me- he's FINALLY going to rehab at the age of 45!

I would marry him only if you are willing to deal with the marijuana as part of his life. Of course he loving, that's what it does. Be prepared to have a third person in your life Mary Jane. If you like to swing, than marry him. Swingers love there wife they just need a little on the side. Sorry to be so harsh. I am a wife of a smoker. When we got married I used to think he was cleaned because he would take long showers. I didnt realize that he was smoking in the bathroom steam covers up the smell. I didnt know this before I married him. Of course I fell in love with him he had all the trait of a weed smoker loving, very good in bed, and got along with everyone. Before we have sex he smoke weed, if we go out he constantly trying to rush home to his zombie friends. Yet if he doesnt have any than they don't come arount. Great you would think he will spend time with me. That's the time that he goes with them. So either way you will have to adjust your wants for his pot smoking. Good luck. Just my own perspective. Hope it helps. It's not the addiction it's the legth they go to smoke it.