How do you cope with fatigue? How can you coquer this? I would be such a happy woman if I didn't have to lie down every two hours...

I am truly disabled.

It is really hard with respect to others....I am african-american so I certainly don't go pale and look quite healthy almost all the time no matter how fatigued I am. *Sigh* And, get this....I even have a TWO year old active boy to try to look after and a 3 bedroom home to keep up...and with all that can you believe my husband told me he thought I was "lazy"...and that ill or not I should be able to "do everything" and that when he's ill he can "do stuff" which is ridiculous to make comparisons...and mind you the last time he had a "cold" all he did was lay on the couch....while I took care of the baby...

Others just don't get it....and it is sooo hard, especially with a child... much harder than before when I could rest. It's a little easier when I get him to Mother's day out twice a week...but it's still tough on the full-time days...especially considering some days my husband works 24 hour shifts as an intern! I understand how you feel though...I get the fatigue...and right now I have Shingles of all things...adult chicken pox that develops from within (normally only older people get it----but perhaps I did b/c of lupus---lower immunity)....argh....now b/c of that my son just got the chicken pox!

It is so hard. A few months ago I was working, taking care of the kids and helping around the house and it was just so much. I do not know how I was able to do it. I have always been one to push myself. But after 4 years of Lupus and other conditions I am finally starting to realize that my body needs this rest more than anything.

The best way to cope is "Do not be to proud or anything to ask for help" I learned this the hard way. I nap when my son naps.