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11/26/2007 18:34
chrissystrat
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 I am looking for suggestions, ideas, really anything to help pull my sister-in-law back into life. In the past two years she has been diagnosed with lupus and beat breast cancer. She now has disappeared. She refuses to come visit any family and rarely answers her phone. She has two wonderful young children and we miss seeing her at family get-togethers. I assume she has been depressed since all that has happened, but we are looking for a way to show her that she still has a life, a wonderful life full of people who love her very much. We don't know how to help. Does anyone have any suggestions to help us support her in a productive way to bring her back to life?
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11/29/2007 06:25
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 Send her a letter or a postcard, keep trying! when you do not feel good a postcard can do miracles. Tell her over and over that you care about her. Hope this helps.

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11/29/2007 18:20
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 I am so sorry for your sister in law and for your family. After and during a trauma, some of us become recluses (sp?). It's safe in a cave, your bedroom, your dark den, etc....Since we can't run away from it, we try to hide in our caves. What helped me the most was my friends and family being almost intrusive and opening curtains, bringing food, cleaning my house,calling me and saying "I'm picking you up in 4 minutes to go get a coke whether you like it or not". Trust me, I whined and tried to beg out, and they wouldn't accept it. They forced me into the light and then it became easier. I dont' know if this will work, but it did for me. Best wishes.
With peace and Hope,

Beth
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12/10/2007 05:42
oneloopykat
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 Sometimes just someone popping over to help me wash some dishes or throw in a load of laundry is a huge help for me. I have a really hard time asking for help but if one of my friends just shows up and says "I'm here to clean the house" I usually don't have the energy to argue back, but it lifts a huge burden off my shoulders knowing that is one less thing that I have to worry about. I tend to shut myself off from the "outside world" but I try and make it a point to get out of the house at least one day a week...even if that means just being driven around the neighborhood. Just keep in mind that it may be hard for her to hop up and go on a shopping trip but bringing over a good chick flick and take out is always great!
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