Hypospadias Support Group

I am 16, I was born with hypospadias. i have had two surgeries both when I was too young to remember. Right now I am going through medical procedures as I have a urinary stricture. My penis is a lot smaller than that of average. This is the thing that problems and worries me most. I am worried about having sex in the future and how my life will be because of this problem. I joined this group to see if there were any other teenagers that are experiencing the same worries and problems as I am.

I have been in hospital a lot during my life, most recently having to drop out of school due to missing so much because of hospital visits and stays. All the time I wish i loived a more "normal" life. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this as I am too embarresed to speak to my mum. I have only ever told one person outside of my family and that was my former best friend. We have since fallen out and lost contact so now I feel I have no one. in life this problem has affected my confidence and "showmanship".

If anyone has any advice, I am sure it would be most helpful. Thanks for your time.

I am sorry that you are having a difficult problem. My son is not quite a teenager. But yes there are people with the same issues out there as you. no worries. My husband has some issues and I have two children. I have a cousin whom married a man that has hypospadias. He has been in numerous surgeries due to severity and he is in his forties...guess what? My cousin is pregnant and his hypospadias was severe. So as far as all your worries here is my advice...I know that you are young and at that age where everyone talks about this and it is one of those teenage things..I knw that you may not want to hear it..

From a woman's point of view..I waited to "be with my husband" until we were emotionally invested in each other. I know I may sound like a nun right now or old fashioned but it made a difference. Here is why, one there is nothing wrong with you. Hypospadias or no there are men out there the same way. Two there will be shallow and narrow minded people in your life. No matter the issue or age. Some people just never mature. Hypsopadias, hair, weight people will just be plain mean, allot of others see passed thier own noses and see people. The ones that make fun are the ones unhappy with themselves or have one of thier own short comings. Wether in thier own personality, physically or there are some good qualities in you that they are jealous of. It is the God's honest truth.

If you find a girl or woman that accepts you for you. Your quirks your happiness your good days your bad and you share time with her and build a relationship without going all the way...what you are worried about won't even come to mind. Your every breathe and word will be hung on and it will be fine. It may happen while a teenager it may happen later..but do not allow someone to make you feel a lesser person that the good person you are. Think of yourself this way...

Dam I have been through allot. More then most adults, hell if I can be through all of that succeed up until now I am stringer for it and I have bettered myself along the way. This is how I have raised my son and noone makes fun of him, noone judges him and he is self confident...No one has any right to make you feel less then great..even you! Do not be so hard on yourself.

I know that you may think oh this lady doesn't know jack. But Hubby has issues been married 13 years...I wouldn't even think of turning my head to look at anyone else. I get the same type of feelings same intensity. I vent write on here let it out. Then I keep going. It doesn't go away for me as I have different issues then yours but, I can still keep going and staying posotive is how you do. The difference is how hard you are on yourself..noone else matters...HUGS I am sorry this is so long but I wanted you to know it is going to be fine. BTW my son read this as he comes online here. He had me respond and some of my answers are directly from him. He says stop worrying too much. lol

hey, I'm also a 16 year old with hypospadias. I got surgeries when I was a baby. I haven't gotten anything else done. Hypospadias has made me crazy insecure. I had never gotten naked in front of other men until recently. I'm really nervous about my penis, its a lot smaller then average. Its about 4.5 inches long and it just doesn't look normal. Urinating isn't a problem at all though.

Do not feel insecure. Hypospadias is not something to feel worried about, ashamed of, or something to make you feel insecure. Yes you are self aware of what has happened to you and people around you. But the thing to remember is what makes or breaks a person in the end is how you accept and love yourself. It sounds corney but if you look at yourself in the mirror and you say to yourself each morning "I am a good person. Everyone has something different in thier lives. I do to this is what makes me who I am and that makes me genuine. People can either love me or hate me. I cannot change that. I can only control me and how I feel about myself." It worked for my son on allot of levels. Not just regarding hypospadias. He has had to dress in the locker room with other boys this past year. Allot have been supportive and have even asked questions rather then nit picked or judged. Yes he is only ten but kids can be fickle too. I am a firm believer of things ahppen for reasons we do not understand until later in life. I personally do not have the very same issues, obviously but I had issues when younger. I was in a car accident that I had almost died from. I have a very large scar from the rib cage on. SO I do understand the type of feelings you describe from two ends of the story. Like I said do not let others get to you and maintain self confidence. You will go far.

hello,myself samual (fake name).i am just 23 year old.i also born wid hypospadias.i have first level hypospadias means my urinary opening just downside the glans.

i have normal size of penis abt 6inch.can i do sex successfully and am i able to continue my next generation?

Samual, I think the person who can answer that question is your doctor since it is not about your penis, it is about your sperm.

Krice, I went through the same feelings when I was your age. I had mine repaired back in the late 1950’s. I did not tell my partners when I first started having sex and guess what? They could not tell anything was wrong. When you begin to have sex, your confidence will grow. I would only discuss it with a partner when I feel comfortable bringing up the subject myself. If you or anyone here would like to discuss in more detail I am dalace@sbcglobal.net on yahoo im. Good luck.

Heya Guys,

For me finding out that i have hypospadias was a completely accident so to speak but im a gay man so i had noticed the difference between mine and others so decided to google what i noticed about mine.

I never had surgery as my parents never recognised it which is slightly annoying, its always something i think about as i suppose we all want the normal penis but the more i read into this, i dont think surgery is for me as there are a lot of risks.

Im quite lucky, ive never had a problem urinating quite accurately nor ejaculating and mine isnt that severe and i have an average length of 6.5...although it is a kick in the teeth when i read that HS affects size! lol

Anyway, has anyone else noticed that their semen is clearer than most, i noticed than other boys are quite white-ish whereas mine is dominantly clear..is this something linked to HS or something i should worry about x

Hello! Sorry about my enghlish. it's quite poor. I´m 21 years old, and i was born with hypospadias. I had two surgeries when i was 13, the first one was a corrective, and it was with local anesthesia, so i was awake when they did it, and the other one was with complete anesthesia, and it was an "estetic" surgery wich resulted to be a circunsicion, wich is not common in this country so i don't have a normal penis. My life wasn´t to normal, appart of this condition, when i was a kid i used to be fat and really bad at sports, so kids at school weren´t to friendly and i think that i´m not a really social person. But I like going out, and i don't have problems to talk to girls at the discos, but at these age my "friends", when we go out, they usually espect to get girls to have sex, and i don´t, because i don't have confidence about my penis. Also they don't know about my problem. They haven't even realised that I usually spent the all night without going to the bathroom, because i can't concentrate with the loudly music and a lot of people looking at me peeing, and it's too hard after drinking a lot of alcohol. I don't know what to do, all my life i thought that i didn´t need a psychologist, but now i've realised that i should visit one becouse i've never felt so empty inside and i don't have no one to talk.

If anyone wants to talk please write me. i want to know if others teenagers with hypospadias have similars problems. I've never met another person with this, sometimes when i'm in a crowed place i think if there is another guy going thru the same as me.

Im 20 with hypospadias and chordee and was circumcised, never been corrected or seen a urologist. my mom has spent 10s of thousands of dollars on excessive numbers of vehicles, leather couches, new carpets, laptops, flatscreens, tempurpedics for her, vacations, and countless other bullshit items.its all thrown in my face daily as I still live with her because I have no job because im so depressed or fucken berserk ALL THE TIME, and she keeps saying "after all ive done for you! get a job!"can you believe that shit? she hasnt done anything. so i cant stop thinking about killing.

seems like she forgot about me and my hypo, my rich ass grandparents too. and they put my twin cousins through college and give them cash handouts all the time because they "feel sorry for the girls because theyre parents arent together", MINE ARENT EITHER! but they dont even talk to me or help me out and i actually have a problem.

Im going batshit insane and about to take people to thier graves along with me in a berserk killing rampage with my rifle and axes if i dont get it fixed. i feel its the only way out since i cant get it fixed on my own. i have no confidence to talk to girls, or act like a man and get employed.

if your kid has this, wait till theyre older so their penis grows normal(luckily i have that going for me), THEN FIX THAT SHIT or they might be on NBC for slaughtering as many people at the mall or bus station or downtown as they can before leaping off a building. its gonna happen i cant take this anymore. sincerely yours, Depressed and PISSED OFF