HPV Support Group

Today a male friend of mine told me he won't hug certain women because they are RUMORED to have certain "medical" issues. He wouldn't state what the medical issues are but I believe it is probably STD related. I took that statement personally and am not exactly certain how I am going to handle our friendship. By the time our phone conversation was done, the tears were pouring down my face and I haven't been crying on and off all day.

I was diagnosed with HPV in 2001. I don't know which type, other than I was treated for cervical cancer and that was how it was discovered. I was in a relationship and he "disappeared" without explanation after my explaining what was cause of my cancer. I never asked about types, because it all is the same to me. I waited 8.5 years to have another relationship.

Recently my boyfriend of over a year broke up with me explaining that he is afraid of my having HPV. We had not had actual intercourse since the beginning of our relationship because he had erectile dysfunction issues he originally claimed was related to his age. I should have realized that was a bunch of crap as he is only 2 years older than me and not dead. It came about because I had requested that I would like him and I to work on the ED issue. He used that as a reason to end the relationship and said that he has been afraid all year. I don't know what he was with me for if he feared getting HPV. I told him before we had sex that we needed to use a condom and why.

I now understand why there are people with STDs that don't tell their partners. I think it is irresponsible to not tell, but I understand the emotions that drive the action. If you care about someone, telling is not only the responsible thing to do, but the trusting action as well. However, it is so hard to trust with jerks like these three idiots.

I would love to hear from someone that is in a successful relationship where their partner knows that they have HPV. I need a little hope right now.

I can't really give you any first hand advice, but I can tell you I know how you feel. Its a hard position to be in. I am scared to start a relationship even though I have heard other people being just fine even after getting HPV and dating someone new, but it makes me anxious ya know? I guess the positive out of this is you know the real character of a guy if he treats you like that - its a terrible way to have to find out or it hurts though. I hope things get better!

Hello there. I am a 25 M and I found out I have HPV a few days ago. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 7 years. I'm sure I had HPV for years but did not think I did. I had a wart on my pelvic area no where near my private parts. I never did anything about for years, since I didn't know about HPV. I knew of herpes but knew it wasn't that. So I finally got checked and told my bf. His first reaction was confusion. He didn't know about HPV.. all in all he told me we will deal with this and for me not to get myself sick. He even said that he could have given it to me, when I told him some people never have symptoms. So he has been good and I go to my Dr to get more information and test if any since I keep reading there are no approved test to test HPV in men? But I hope this helps you. There are people out there that will love you and be with you even though we have HPV.

Because of this wonderful website and this discussion, I read an article on HPV history that was very interesting. It supports what my doctor had said this week that HPV can go "away". Actually what happens is what is called HPV immunity. They don't know if it is 100% gone, but it doesn't appear on the most sensitive tests they have. I don't think I will be lucky enough to have that happen to me as I have had my HPV for 10 years now and it is a high-risk type. One can dream.

HPV can become dormant aka no symptoms, low levels of virus in your system. Its like chicken pox that way - its technically in your body but your immune system keeps it in check. You can encourage your body to do this by taking extra folic acid, no smoking, eating healthy, especially green leafy veggies, broccoli, and red grapes. There are also other supplements that may help - do a google search and you can see for yourself what sorts of evidence they have, but i took Red Marine algae. I had wart causing and high risk/cervical lesion causing HPV. I did all of the above and used Aldara on the warts and I have no warts anymore and my pap smears have been normal. It may just be coincidence, sometimes this is just what your body does, but it can;t hurt to try, right? If nothing else you have made your lifestyle healthier anyhow!

lcastro86 - most people who have HPV never get symptoms, its actually more common to never see a wart or never have an abnormal pap smear if you are female. if you have had more than one sexual partner its virtually impossible to know where you got it or when since it can stay in your body for a long time or pop up right when you get exposed. There are not HPV specific tests for men - in women that have what they call HPV DNA tests, but they are not commonly used and its only for the strains that are not wart causing. The way they diagnose warts its just by how they look. They can also cut off and have a pathologist look at it microscopically. This is what I had done and basically they report back that it does or does not look generally like what a wart would look like - how the cells are arranged, what kinds of cells there are, etc.

Good luck to both of you. Remember even when it seems like this is consuming you (as I know it does first hand) it will get better. I honestly would have never thought I would get of the depression I felt after being diagnosed but I feel fine now! Every once in awhile I still have a little anxiety about it, but its surely not depression and is not the only thing I about everyday like it used to be.

Hi there, sorry to hear about your encounter with someone who was not mature enough to deal with you. That was his loss. I have HPV but I don't know how long I've had it. I was so depressed when I first found out. I am divorced and I am not currently dating. I did share my health issue with a good friend and I told her I would never date again. I thought, how can I share this with someone? She encouraged me by saying, there is someone special out there you and you have to believe it. You should believe it too. There are thousands of people who have STD'S and they are in healthy relationships. You just haven't met the right guy yet.

Hang in there. Your life is still valuable and don't doubt your worth.

I am in a great relationship currently it is with my boyfriend i was with when i first saw the symptoms of genital warts. we stayed together, broke up and he eventually came back to me. i know this isn't like starting a new relationship and having to tell someone new but i can tell you it doesn't have to take the spotlight in your relationship. my boyfriend and i rarely talk about it, not that we avoid the subject but we focus on more positive things in life. he has loved me and taught me to love myself. as far as i am concerned we are in a loving and supportive relationship and i believe others can find this happiness too. obviously my life is not perfect i am still depressed about having genital warts but having a kind boyfriend is one positive part of my life.

it is hard being around people who make "funny" comments about stds .. i can't bring myself to laugh along and i find myself really disliking the people who are insensitive about genital warts. i understand when you haven't been affected by something it's easy to make light of it but sometimes people are downright cruel.