lisa79
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Hi my name is Lisa and I have been in your position with my boyfriend been a heroin addict and he had a problem for yrs before I got together with him and when we first got together he was off heroin but gradually got back into it and for the first 2years and 2mths I was totally against it trying to get him off it but I was also stupid cos I was allowing him to do it cos I felt sorry for him when he was physically feel withdrawals so I would give him the money for it aswell which wasn,t helping him, anyway in the space of those 2yrs and 2mths we had a daughter and when she was 4mths old I suffered from post-natal depression and tried heroin with him and after 2mths of taking it I went for help and stayed off it for a year while he still used then I had a few relaspes on and off the last 4yrs on it for a couple of mths at a time so I have been in your position living with an addict and also been the addict and I,m glad to say we both haven,t touched anything since March this year and I have learned alot from my mistakes but what I noticed was I was been too soft with John my BF cos I was giving him the money plus I was allowing him to take Heroin until I realised one day that he was never going to change if I kept allowing him to use cos then he didn,t think what he was doing was that wrong so I am now a stronger person and won,t allow him now and it has made him think now about what he was going to lose (his daughter and me)if he carried on with that lifestyle so what I,m trying to ask you is do you allow your partner to use heroin?cos if you do she might think it isn,t that much of a problem cos you are allowing her to do it so in her mind she might think it can,t be that wrong to keep using so maybe if you gave your wife a ultamatium and letting her know how you feel it might give her the fright she needs to change if she realises she will lose you if she continues to use drugs, if you ever need anyone to talk to just send me a message anytime I know how sad and helpless you will feel just now but your wife needs to want to change before she will change her lifestyle Take care |
