mch...welcome to the group! I have found great support here and hopefully you will too. How long has he been in rehab so far? Are his parents in the picture or are you his support when he gets out? My husband was in rehab a year ago (for alcoholism) and it was rough for both of us the first week because they didn't allow phone calls but they had a number I could call and leave messages that the staff would leave on a board for the residents. So I called a couple of times the first week he was there to just say hi or to let him know the dog was doing ok, lol. I also sent him cards and I found some great ones at the Hallmark store that actually were for people in recovery. Just remember to be supportive and upbeat if you talk to him or visit him. Try not to bring outside problems to him while he is going through this - he needs to just concentrate on one thing, HIMSELF getting clean and learning how to stay clean. Try not to even say how much you miss him - strange as that sounds you just don't want to give him any excuses to bolt from rehab. (I'm assumming you are not an addict?) And like the others said start attending support groups either Alanon or Naranon. I live in a pretty big city and we don't have naranon and if you don't either go to Alanon it is the same principal and believe me they will welcome you. You need to be prepared and learn everything there is to learn before he gets out. When my husband got out I was so excited but also a nervous wreck and well....lets just say I about sabotaged his recovery b/c all I did was focus on him and his sobriety. anyway, sorry for rambling hopefully some of it will make sense, lol. Let us know how your doing! |
