Heroin Addiction Support Group

I don't even know how to begin this... But I'm scared my boyfriend is becoming addicted to heroin. At first t was every so often but his use gets more frequent as the days go by. I guess I have to start at the beginning. Some 7 weeks ago he was jumps downtown and as a result had his jaw wired shut. Now he's always done xanax periodically and smokes weed a lot which I've never minded that much cause it has never been in excess or affected out relationship. After his surgery I was given a stern warnig by his doctor his tolerance is so high he had to receive 3x the normal anethetics to go to sleep. Shortly after he was going through a lot of pain meds and when he ran out of prescribed and friends pills strted purchasing heroin when he claimed it was all he could get a hold of. Since then it's been very periodic but in my opinion one time is one too many. Now I cant act like a saint because I did do it with him for my first time and did it twice after but since haven't touched it or wanted to since. At first he claimed he was taking it to get rid of the pain but I don't think you nod off from just enough to relieve pain. Today marks a 3 day binge he has been on doing it all day from wake up to sleep. This has all happened over the course of roughly 2 months. He turns into a asshole when he comes down etc. and it's beginning to take a toll on our relationship. Right now as I type this he is doing it with these 2 people he is sellin the rest of it to. I don't know what to do. It has all happened so fast I can't even keep up. What do I do? I've told him his use is beginning to scare me and he assures me he is going to stop once he finishes surgery on his mouth but I don't know if I believe that anymore. I'm at a point that a) I don't want the drug or the people doin it in my house (we live together) and b) I'm about to say get out til you aren't on this shit anymore. Please help with an insight and advice.

Tell his parents about his using heroin - they have the right to know- and get him out of your house. Have a read on what other people are going through with their addicts, copy - paste it, and there you are, your life.

Addiction is not a game and his life - as well as yours - is in danger. Before you know it, you'll be living with a full blown heroin addict and trust me, a ride to hell is much easier.

Good luck!

Post edited by: Pen125, at: 04/26/2012 01:47 PM

Post edited by: Pen125, at: 04/26/2012 01:48 PM

Post edited by: Pen125, at: 04/26/2012 01:48 PM

My daughters friends didn't tell us about her using heroin until she disappeared. However, we knew something was wrong when her boyfriend just showed up at our house with her clothes and told us he had changed his locks and she wasn't welcomed back. He didn't say what for and wouldn't tell us either but she had already taken off by then. Now I'm a mom (and a pretty cool one so I've been told lol) but if I were you I would change your locks (if he isn't on the lease) and take his clothes to his parents house. If you don't want to tell them that is fine, they can deal with him on their own but the main thing is you are inviting trouble into your place by him using with his dealers and other druggie friends and trust me you cannot trust them when they are using heroin. My daughter was and still is the biggest conartist and she used and stole from all of her best friends or told them sob stories to get money....she burned more bridges than not and sadly she is still out there somewhere using heroin and any poor soul she can con. I know I sound like a bitch talking about her this way but after years of her lies and watching her throw her life away and not accept or want help to get clean this is the only way I can cope. Heroin isn't a recreational drug you do occasionally so don't let him fool you. You're young and have a whole life to live please do what's right for YOU. I wish you all the best. Take care

Well said ladies. Sounds to me like he is using to "stay well". Get him out. He is not thinking about you or your relationship right now. He can't when he is actively using. He will eventually sell, trade or pawn everything of value. Your safety is of concern as well. I am so glad you did not continue to use. YOu are one of the lucky ones. You cannot love him into recovery, if only we could, he must do it on his own and it doesn't sound like he's at that point yet. Penn, I love the "a ride to hell is easier". Truer words were never spoken. Take care of yourself, I will be praying for you.

I'm thinking about all of you ladies.. Thanks for keeping me in mind even though I am not one of the active members. It's easy to be forgotten when there's so much going on. So, thank you again!

I hope "breakpoint' comes back to check the advice and insight she asked for.. It's sad that people post asking for support and then disappear. Sometimes, I get a bit worried...

Post edited by: Pen125, at: 05/03/2012 08:19 AM

This post and reply has almost broken me apart with tears for the kind responses and advice. When I posted I must admit I didn't think anyone would say much or that the responses would take weeks to begin appearing. It brings me hope seeing so many people have been where I've been and come out on top in the end. Thank you for all your kind words and concern. I can't say the days have gotten worse and they continue getting better. He currently has stopped using since he finished surgery earlier this week and I can only hope that he will stay off of it because if he can't I have made the decision that any future use for any reason will be the end of our relationship and friendship. The things I saw out of him over the past month scared me and hurt me to bounds I wasn't aware I could ever reach. He has no idea of what my plans are should start using again because I know this will only lead to him tryin to hide it of he does. I wish I could turn him away now but I'm sure you all know it is never that easy. Praying my encounter with this one was only of a brief nature. His future and ours is in his hands.

The ladies are RIGHT. I can tell you firsthand that you DON'T want a house full of junkies, it does nothing but draw attention to you, not to mention anything of value will "dissapear" and nobody knows where it went. I'm a recovering heroin addict, been free of it since 09/05/09. I was doing it for ten years roughly, I'm lucky to be here. Anyways, you should stand your ground on this one, you don't want or need that shit in your lives. If you ever need anything, I'm here. Good Luck Girl! Heather

Well, everyone was as right as can be. A year later and my faith in him led to being cheated on well at work in our very bed behind my back, stealing my money to feed his addiction, and lies about recovery. All the picking up around the corner by his dealers and junkie friends did go unnoticed. He proved to be junkie "strong" and with my leaving him, he's sought refuge with the junkies that were supplying it behind my back to him. They can keep their house full of addicts. My life has and will only continue to get better as his will plunge. Another mind lost to heroin; I can only hope he doesn't lose his soul.