Heroin Addiction Support Group

I just need to rant!!

The (ex now) boyfriend who totally manipulated me, stole from me, constantly let me down and told me he was never on anything (heroin or methadone) who then told me he had been taking methadone to sleep but has NEVER taken heroin is still continuing to lie and deceive. I dont think he actually knows what the truth is! He's that used to playing stories off to everyone.

I told him he wasnt welcome in my home after finding methadone on holiday and going through a few months of just total madness. Him going awol for days, not speaking for more than that amount. Begging for money from me as allsorts had happened.

I have now not seen him for 8 weeks and told him until he proved to me he is willing to change etc and fight for this then i wont.

I have seen nothing but promises in that time. Now he tells me he has gotten himself off methadone (yeah like u just can over a month?) and seeing a counsellor but when I ask him about it - i just feel like he's spinning me a huge story. He is still in my opinion very selfish - after oweing me 15K and me struggling to pay he had the cheek to ask me to lend him a £100. As if!! Its like he doesnt care about anyone except himself. He is now interviewing for jobs and as I kicked him out with nothing everything is here..... so instead of saying he wants to see m,e... work it out, make it up.... everyhing is centered around HIS needs..... "I need to get my clothes and suits"

Had enough... i dont think he is in recovery at all.. i dont actually think i believe he just took methadone... never heard of this. His brother who he is very close to is a 20yr+ waste of space addict as in he does not want to change and will continue to do anything and everything to his family. I thought 8 weeks would make my ex fight for his life... he's still if not worse... a selfish person.

Thanks! bit angry today!

It doesn't sound like recovery to me. He's still doing the same thing he did before, but now the desperation might be setting in. GOOD...that's what he needs. When things are comfortable, they have no reason to change. If he has friends helping him, then it might take alot longer for him to hit his bottom.

Good job on putting yourself first and drawing the line on his addiction. He will keep manipulating you as long as you allow it, and since you are no longer allowing it...you'll be able to focus on you and your life instead of his addiction.

Vent anytime you want...that's what we are here for.

thanks...... Knowing i am doing the right thing is so helpful! never doubted my own thoughts and intuition so much! He has developed a very scary knack of actually not really giving you any information or explanation at all!! sad really

Thanks for your support

It is sad. When he's ready for help, he will get it....until then, just take care of yourself. I'm here for ya! : )

thanks for the support, its really hard to hold the line

and keep the boundries. In May he was inpatient during a court date for stealing so they had a warrent out for his arrest so he contacted the facility and got his documents together. He called anxious but since he staol from me I have not let him in the house. Its tough to know the limits and keep them. The loss is do deep and the grief sneaks up on me out of nowhere. Its

hard. But I am gkad to have found this forum where people understand. Thankyou it really helpss

Hang in there. I am sorry you are going through this. You wrote "the loss is so deep and the grief sneaks up on me out of nowhere". Its so true. Im sorta new to this compared to the many seasoned veterans here but what helps me is getting out with friends and family and taking the focus off the nightmare for a while, even if for just a few hours.

Marty