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So, I have this guy that i've been on/off with for about eight years now, and lately, he's been doing a world of good. He used to stand me up all the time, was never there for me, just so distant. But now he's actually apologized sincerely for everything, is trying to make amends. He's acting like I always wished we could be. But the issue is.....i'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. And there's one memory that still bothers me that I haven't brought up because i'm not sure if it would be fair, since he IS doing a world of good right now. He's in this a thousand percent, I know that. Is it fair that I don't trust it yet?

sounds like your basing that 'world of good' against the uncertainty of the past? trust is earnt not a forgiven right so id be encouraging and optoistic. if hes apologising then he knows hed nearly blown it so id let him know he has to earn your trust. what do you think?

Once trust is broken, its not a quick thing to fix. He is taking the right steps, but this is not a sprint more of a marathon with the finishing line being regaining your trust. I have serious past trust issues that I have let plague me, but I am trying to work on them.

Post edited by: lovesBPgf, at: 06/18/2012 10:29 AM

together? or alone

I guess i'm just nervous that if I bring this up i'll discourage him.......and I don't want to do that, and I don't want to discount all the good he's doing......I don't know if my feelings are fair right now.......and I mean I don't know if my feelings are fair to HIM right now.

Well maybe you should just think on it for now and not say anything until your sure unless you think that it will come out in a bad way if he does one little thing that gives you a glimpse of how things used to be??