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Angelface08 Posts: 218
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I suspect the guy that I am seeing is dealing with depression. I have known him for 5 years we recently decided to try dating again. I am really worried about him. I gently asked if he ever thought about talking to someone. He said he has thought about seeing someone but has never made it there. I mentioned this very gently and in a non attacking way. I didn't suggest he go see someone but I said if he wanted to go that I would be there for him.I said that I would support him in whatever way possible. If he needed me to just sit in the waiting room, walk with him, or be there when he gets home. Just someone for him to lean on. Instead of getting help he is using alcohol to numb the pain. For those of us that deal with depression we know all to well its the worse way to treat it. That's only going to make him worse. I don't think he realize how bad he is, or for how long hes been this way. I'm watching him get worse. I feel like a hypocrite when I even think about talking to him about this again. Since I was in the hospital a year and half go twice because I was clinically depressed. Thankfully I got help and am in a better place. I love him I don't want him to fall as far as did. I'm here for him in whatever capacity I can be, but he wont let me be there. Hes shutting me out, which is worrying me because that's the first thing I did before I really spiraled. I won't walk away from him I am staying I just need to know how I can convince him to get help. With what ive been through so recently I'm afraid ill sound hypocritical. I don't know if I am making any sense. He will barely talk to people, sleeps most of the day and night, I can just see it. How do I help him get help before its to late? I would appreciate any help. I want to see him happy and healthy. Thanks you so much for the help. Hugs Angel I have epilepsy,Myasthenia gravis,ADHD,Asthma,HSV, recovered ED, free of abuse, HSV and depression. I wont be a victim of abuse.
“This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, somg go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babve, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up becuase if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”
― Marilyn Monroe
“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.”
Mother Teresa
My advice is all from personal experience I am not a doctor, do not substitute this for medical advice :)
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