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I'm dating a wonderful guy, who I've known for the past 2 1/2 years. We recently got back together and we really want to make this work. The reason we broke up was a mistake on my part-I decided to call it off for a very immature reason (basically I was being selfish over his hectic work schedule...I was young and stupid, weren't we all though at some point!)

He is incredibly social. He can strike up a convo with anyone, put a smile on anyones face, and he is a natural cheerer upper. I am shy and anxious and worry about what people think. I am working on this (counseling, meds for anxiety, etc) but I will always be the quiet one in our relationship.

When it's just me and him everything is perfect. We have stuff to talk about, but when we are in groups I tend to get ignored. I brought this to his attention and he didn't realize he was doing it, but he now acknowledges that it happens. We both know it's because we see each other during the work week one on one (not every day, we still have plenty of time alone) and on the weekends he gets to see people he hasn't seen all week. So of course, he'll talk to them b/c he knows he'll see me soon. Even though I know this, I get SUPER frusturated. I get upset he took me somewhere only to ignore me. He is a DJ and he talks to the crowd and his friends to get everyone pumped up: understandable. He can strike up a convo with a stranger and find things to talk about. I got mad at him becuase how come he can't find stuff to talk about with me in group settings?!

I have a bit of a temper with it: pouting, cold shoulder, etc. My attitude is horrendous but I at least know it's in my attitude. But my thoughts and the things I say are the MAIN ISSUE.

I will say mean things or storm out of the room with a snarky comment (ex: I feel fucking AMAZING!)

Yes, the problem is me. I love this guy so much I am willing to have any advice on how to bite my tongue, when i need to address something, and/or what things to just brush off and ignore. My issue is, I will bring up EVERYTHING and not focus on big, important things.

Any tips on how to have better communication (i dont want to mak every minor thing a problem!), how to live in the PRESENT ONLY and what to do in group situations. I LOVE the concerts and the crowd but I am an observer and not a participant, so how do I cope?

the hindge pin is are you both confident and happy with each other ? im by far the oposit, very queit (unless you anoy me) so if i were in your situation id be making an extra effert to 'get chatting' with ppl?

that any good for a starter?

It may also be fears and a lack of self confidence. Maybe your afraid of how someone will respond to you if you mix in with the crowd. There are lots of people who don't have much in the way of social skills.

Decide what you are most comfortable with and maybe you should ask him to introduce you to a few people and tell you a little about them, that might make you a bit more comfortable with the idea of approaching them.

But if you feel better off just being an observer than do that. Only you know what you are capable of handling. Don't forget you could get better with this over time.