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Why does my husband ignore me, not want to talk, rather be with his friends, hate his job, hate me???????

I feel anxious thinking about how I can try to make things better (when ever I try to talk to him, he shuts down on me, and becomes angry, but dont know how.

i am thinking he is being controlling with his behaviour?

Dont know how to leave????

nasty prodicament, been there myself. if its any help i just picked the right time and said if your not happy go cos your making my life a misery, she could have said 'ow sorry well lets chat OR ok ill go' she went hope thats of some help.

'WHY' is not just a question, if you persue it it gives all the answers to all the questions (alot of which are seen in a face not heard)

what you think?

That is not a uncommon problem. I have known more than one person who has had it. Not sure what a solution is, but maybe leaving for at least a while will make him wake up.

You know the old saying it takes two to tango. People use that when people talking about fighting. But it also applies to having a good relationship. One person can't make that happen, it take two.

But let me be clear, nobody knows what if anything will work.

sounds to me like your husband is having issues that really have nothing to do with you?? is he depressed?? it sounds like nothing in his life makes him happy?? just some food for thought, maybe he needs some counseling or counseling together?? you cant continue to live that way and he needs to know that..what can you do to take care of yourself, i know easier said then done but its so important

Thankyou all sooooo much for your replies, honestly, it means soo much to me to hear from you, just listening to me in my dark hours...your the best XXXX

Hi steve, i really appreciate your comments, sorry, but i dip in and out of here, so not always good at returning comments.

So back here...!!..just reread your comments on this thread, i might try your advice by asking him if hes happy, and telling him if hes not then to go, coz hes making my life a misery. lets see where it goes from there! thanks once again XXX

keep us posted just remember 'why' its question and answer, persue it if he wants to discuss as jenn says though, sounds like he has other issues ie work? if hes not happy there he may well come home depressed and quiet (theres your why)

hope things are brightening up for you josouth