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I'm trying very hard to leave this job where I have been cheating out of pay for several months. I talked ot the billing person to help straighten what I'm owed out. Then there is my boss. I have been actively looking for a private office for clients I see. Thing is I want to stay in the same area. I don't know how my boss will react with my leaving. I am ready to go private on my own but I know he has a evil spiteful streak about him. He has done this to others who have left him. I tried to take a respectful proactive approach that I hope will make this smooth and not a war of words and allegations and legal matters.

I emailed him to tell him where I'm at in my career and wanting to talk personally to him so as to make a smooth transition for all involved when I leave. I hope he is going to be professional in hearing this.

all about comunication ah, have you tried 'due to my wage i have to leave'?

No, I haven't done that yet. I'm trying the nice approach first as he owes me some money not paid. If it doesn't go smoothly, I will have to go to plan B, about not getting paid right or on time and still being owed money. I need to try to get this money paid to me and not in his pocket before I go. Hopefully, I won't need to take any legal steps. Rachele

because of my wages i need to go , will you settle the differance between us now or do i need to take legal action?? direct approach you cant allow a bully boy to hold you to randsom ah?? what you think

It's complicated Steve. I am paid as a consultant in his group. We often have to wait until the contracter pays, then my boss gets paid, then I do. I happen to find a space across the street from him and I don't know if my contract will allow me to set up practice that close to his. But I have other options and places to look at on Monday. I'm so worn out and stressed constantly looking and then thinking about things like this contract I never thought about, can't find nor do I remember all the stipulations in it. But I will find my own space and I will get the money I'm owed. I just have to be patient and do things the right way. I'm just really stressed and exhausted. I can't focus on my family, my groups here, nor sleep. This is something that needs most of my attention until I get squared away and I hope my husband and family will understand that I'm preoccupied right now. Rach

im sure your family will understand, you do discuss it with them yes?? an old proverb of mine?? sometimes its better just to cut your losses and start fresh?? easy said i know but it sure sounds like an unhealthy relationship you have with 'the boss'.

i hope mondays 'options and places' go favorably.

Is this what it feels like with your supervisor rach???lol. Sorry things are so stressful for you right now. I laugh at people when they say "are you taking time for you?" but really its so necessary to try to find those quiet moments to regroup..I hope that you can find some time to care for yourself amist all of this craziness. Sometimes the best ideas come to you when you are not trying to think to hard Will your family pitch in and help you out while your busy w/other things?

Post edited by: jenn123, at: 02/19/2011 03:14 AM

Hey Jenn where did you find the pics of me and my co-worker....lol...I know how you feel Rache with work and stress then throw in the family life and sometimes it feels so overwhelming..feel as if pulling the cover over your head is the only solution and shutting out the rest of the world...unfortunately when it comes to bosses and money the money part is much more important than the loyal employee...hope you get your $$ and can run, sounds as if that is the best solution for you....hugs Marsha

I actually don't feel him beating up on me verbally. I act like nothing is wrong. I smile and keep a complete poker face when I need to. Then I drop the bomb on him which is my leaving and for good reasons. I had enough of working with him and I will do great on my own. I have alot of confidence in what I do and I just need a place, office to do it. I hope he won't be an ass about it but I have some amunition myself, ha ha. I will try to get my money as much as I can but the rest I will probably cut my losses and start fresh. I know I'm going to do well. Have been getting many calls for consulting work and the money will now be all mine not half my bosses. So Kudos to me. My ship has finally come in. Rachele

good for you rach, proud of you karma is such a glorious thing ah lol