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my best friend since 1st grade passed away 2 days ago! my point in writing this post is that...our entire lives we have been telling each other we wanted to marry each other and that we loved each other. as we got older i became scaried about that kinda stuff and we slowly stopped talkin' about it. although, it was known but, not spoken. he tried to kiss me and i turned away (because i was worried about our friendship). but, i always had feelings for him, i was just to chicken to admit it. now that he is gone i kick myself for not being upfront about my feelings toward him...i talked to him 1 day before he passed away and the last words he said to me was..."I love you."

please don't let time go by without taking the time to tell people you love them and your true feelings. You never know when there time is to leave this earth. and if you don't share what you feel you will regret it later!!!

((((Kate)))) I am so sorry for your loss. What you say is very true and we all need to express our feelings to those we love while we have the chance. Thanks for sharing.

Kate, that is so sad but I know that he knew how you felt. I often think about that when I leave things up in the air with people who I care about. We all really to let down our barriers and just say the words, and not worry about the outcome so much.

Sue

Kate,

Thank you for sharing that.

It must have been difficult, but it really got your point across. I like to believe that the people we care about most know how we feel.

I agree with that. In some types of relationships people should share their emotions and feelings. It can takes time.

That is very, very sad, Kate.

Post edited by: George512, at: 07/30/2010 11:51 PM

I can only hope now he knows how i feel. but, i believe that he does..

it's been difficult also because since i never could share my feelings because of my fear we continued to date other people. but, i hoped when it was all said and done that we would end up together. and i found out (after he passed away) my parents thought the same thing. thank you guys for sharing. yesterday was extremly hard and i went to his grave today...i got all your message right at the time i needed them most!

Sue, i think the "barrier" part is a huge factor in telling people you love them and not worrying what other people think! sometimes i think i didn't deserve him (trust me! he was amazing!) because i cared so much of what other people thought when it came to us being together..he didn't care what other people thought and he was always his crazy, comical, loving-caring self! I know better now. but, if i could of only learned it earlier!

thanks for sharing. really leaves one pondering

kate 01 i hope your loss isnt as hard for you know. its a good lesson we can all learn buy though, we never know whats coming so to value each day and say 'i love you is-invaluable i believe?would you?