Hey everyone this is literally my first time on this site, I haven't even really taken the time to look over anything or really read what anyone had to say. This will all come later. I just really need to get this off my chest before I can go on. About 2 months ago one of my very close friends was diagnosed with glimoal cancer it started with her having lapse in memory and being sick a lot and after the MRI and tests she was diagnosed. And up until about a month ago I had NO idea how serious and real it is. It sounds silly to say that I didn't realize that brain cancer was serious but I think a lot of it had to do with the idea that I didn't want it to be real. When she first started the chemo we were just on our first trip to Hawaii and I firsthand saw how sick the chemo was making her. Granted, she is a 5ft nothing person, and did I mention she is only 22? She started out doing a drip chemo once everyother week and was taking oral pills daily. Within this short period of time she has already been bumped up to 3 times a week and just keeps getting sicker and sicker. Now she is being encouraged by her doctors to check into a hospital so she can have 24 hour care. She has a 2 year old daughter and she hasn't told many of our friends, actually pretty much no one knows besides about 5 of us and her family. I guess where I am going with all of this is what do I do? She says how she just needs someone there to talk to but she is a very stubborn person who hates being weak. I tell her that a large part of this challenge is by putting herself in a weak position and letting people in. Still, it is impossible to know how to act,what to say. I act as is everything is good but I don't know. After researching all of this I have had a swift reality check about how serious this is and how I could quite possibly lose her. Since I can't talk to many friends about it I need support and help from people who ARE going through what I am AND who have/or are dealing with this so I can know how I can give 100% without treating her differently. Any advice would be amazing... Thank you for listening to my rant... |
