http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/feed http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/feed en-us Copyright (C) MDJunction.com. All rights reserved. Mon, 20 May 2013 07:01:57 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10290664-i-am-new-to-genital-herpes#10694476 I am 41 and can still relate to your emotional distress. I can tell you that you can still have children. I went on to have 3 successful deliveries to 3 healthy children years ago. I got this dreadful thing from my ex-husband before we married back in 1997. I never really had to deal with it because we were married! Well he left me yearsago and is now happily remarried. Is it unfair? Certainly. Does it still hurt? Yes. Do I feel worthless at times? Indeed I do? Do I feel as though I don't stand ... Mon, 20 May 2013 05:23:58 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/introductions-personal-stories/10690689-newly-diagnosed#10694325 Sounds like your guy is in denial, and being a bit selfish. If he gave it to you, he needs to own up to it and stop making you feel like you are the one with the problem. Thus is a tough situation as it is, and communication is essential. He does not seem to be supportive and that is what you need most. Its time for you to reflect on what you want and need and decide if this guy is worth it.... Mon, 20 May 2013 03:41:51 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10692051-need-some-support-or-guidance#10692051 I have been positive with herpes since I was in my late 20s now I am in my late 30s. I never have been OK with the diagnosis and I was never told by my partner he had it. I am married and married a man that I thought accepted it, told him and we have been married for 5 together for 9. In arguments he does throw the herpes in my face and makes me feel bad about myself. So I recently separated and it is scary to think that I may have to start the whole dating process over again. I really ne... Sun, 19 May 2013 05:55:35 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10680266-waiting-for-the-results#10692033 I have been positive for 10 years and now I am in my late 30s. I wish you all the best for it to be negative. It is definitely manageable and you need to be honest with your partners if you are. My partner was not honest with me. I think this is a perfect place to find support if you are and be strong and know we are all here... Sun, 19 May 2013 05:43:58 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10690110-needing-advice#10691173 Will not be online any time soon again but generally, a maddenung itch and a painful burning sensation with ulcerated blisters, are symptoms that are fairly common. They may not be visible and can be internal for women. Testing is done by taking a sample of the infected area or drawing blood. The symptoms can manifest within one to two weeks after exposure and some people do not show symptoms but are still infected and carriers of the virus. One in five people have herpes now a days so there's l... Sat, 18 May 2013 15:25:23 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10687362-i-just-found-out-i-have-genital-herpes#10689398 Thetruthhurt, you are going through what most of us go through when we find out. It's a disease we have to learn how to come to terms with. What ever you are feeling or experiencing is what needs to come up and out for you. The mix of emotions can be overwhelming so try to be very gentle and compassionette towards yourself. In time your perspective may change and the intensity may lessen. Please know that you are not alone and have lots of company in facing this disease which can feel so very lo... Fri, 17 May 2013 16:16:15 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10682782-first-date-since-i-found-out#10685082 Be honest and be yourself. Time your discussion according to the level of interest and desire. Remember you are still you and not at fault if you get rejected. Taking it slow and getting to know each other is a wise way to go.... Wed, 15 May 2013 18:50:03 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/introductions-personal-stories/10667753-i-got-herpes-as-an-18-yr-old-virgin#10680453 SweetTea said it all really well. She is offering you good advice.... Mon, 13 May 2013 19:38:18 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10665176-good-to-see-people-communicating#10665176 I don't always say what people like or want to hear but, it has been a privledge to interact with you all. I'm so glad people are stepping up to help each other. I have to go away as I am losing the library where I use the computer and possibly my home soon after. Hope to be able to somehow check in occassionally but, odds are, you won't hear from me for quite awhile. Good luck to you all and take care of each other. Lots of love to you all,-Lymeie. Last post May 18th.... Mon, 06 May 2013 18:20:21 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10651400-thinking-about-getting-contacts#10663634 I would talk to your doctor and even your eye doctor to see if there are any risk... Mon, 06 May 2013 03:42:02 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10659663-drinking-after-someone#10662982 I don't necessarily think it's best to tell your 7 year old about GH. Just stop panicing and take the necessary precautions in keeping your daughter healthy. I just don't think you need to place that burden on her young shoulders. Yes kids do know a lot but what child wants to have to worry about their parents' health or have to keep looking over their shoulders worrying to death about whether or not they used Mommy's cup or towel or whatever. YOU have to make sure that you are careful, but I do... Sun, 05 May 2013 16:50:54 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10650570-a-question#10652074 The best thing for you to do is tell her. The chances are high that she will contract it, but there is a possibility that she may not. Don't let her find out by seeing it on or around her mouth. That would be devastating. Good luck and pray that all ends up well.... Tue, 30 Apr 2013 11:56:27 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10645398-help-loosing-weight-over-this#10648071 I never told them because I wasn't in a relationship with any of them. I wanted a relationship,but they didn't so I never felt I needed to tell them. That was not the right thing to do regardless,and I will be honest with anyone I do get involved with. It is scary, but I have to do what's right.... Sun, 28 Apr 2013 14:08:06 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10615206-how-to-live-after-the-dianosis#10618937 I would add to SweetTeas info that the sadness, coming up for you is okay to feel right now. There is no reason to not have your feelings right now so let it out. Try to be gentle and compassionette towards yourself though. You have just contracted a highly contagious disease that will require some lifestyle changes from you. Because you are now wounded physically and experiencing psychological trauma as your belief system is called into question and your self worth threatened, be gentle with yo... Sun, 14 Apr 2013 16:09:25 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10613665-my-boyfriend-had-gh-and-did-not-tell-me#10618903 Your experience is valid. If it is a big deal for you then it is. Some day it may be different but you are where you are about it. It seems like the reason it is looming large for you has to do with your sense of self worth. The physical disease may represent the betrayal you feel from your fiance and possibibly from yourself. Letting yourself be vulnerable and trusting this man after your last break up may have you doubting your choices right now. At least you know your feelings and you are lis... Sun, 14 Apr 2013 15:57:01 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10610752-just-found-out-yesterday#10612460 I personally don't have experience with finding love but I've read of others finding better partners and love as a result of scaring away the hook up phoneys. I'm still working on a lot of major life problems but, I believe that there is enough love in the world for everyone to find some. I would rather be open to the prospect than closed and dooomed to lonliness. That's dealing with oral, genital hsv, hpv, and lyme disease, all of which are contagious. Now, if I can just get my life together an... Thu, 11 Apr 2013 17:05:56 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10609049-realizing-i-need-help#10610519 Thank you for the encouragement and support. I really don't know why this is affecting me this way after all of these years. I guess I have unresolved issues that I subsided for many years. Thanks again... Wed, 10 Apr 2013 19:30:40 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/2859896-confused#10610388 Best way to determine what you have is through testing. Blood test are available but getting an ulcer scraped when active is exact.... Wed, 10 Apr 2013 18:18:24 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/2695284-when-do-you-tell-a-guy-you-like-you-have-herpes#10610346 The time to tell someone your attracted to about your disease is before you have sex if it is genital and before you kiss if it is oral. It's not fair to with-hold information about a permanent biological contagion. Be responsible and risk rejection rather than stealing anothers choice. You will have to live with yourself longer than anyone else.... Wed, 10 Apr 2013 18:04:05 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/genital-herpes-discussions/general-support/10593040-help-talk-some-sense-into-me#10608163 It's totally okay to vent and let out your feelings. Life can sometimes seem to be very unfair and we get to express our feelings about it. I would say it's necessary to get out our emotions and thoughts or we end up dysfunctional. I've got lots of personal experience with that topic too. Glad you're in a better space. Hope that things continue to get better and our views be of what we gain more than what we have lost. Not to ignore what we lose or what effects us but, not have it be the main fo... Tue, 09 Apr 2013 18:49:17 -0700