Goodness.
Well, first up, and this just my 2 cent's worth of an opinion,
"My friends are ALL anti-gay as is mostly everyone Ive ever met, but ive never talked to anyone about gender situations, and im afraid theyd view them in the same light."
Sounds like you already know what they're like.
I can't speak for everyone, but I've seen that usually the close minded people don't get more open minded about a situation, especially if 'one of their own' confesses that they are different. Best thing you can do for yourself, even if, right now, all you do is find them online, is find people like you. Find people who can understand, relate to, and support you as you go through this. Those people who are already open minded are some of the most supportive, compassionate, and wonderful people you'll ever get to know. The trick is finding them.
And, a word of warning, a true "friend" will still accept a fellow friend, no matter what. Gay, straight, bi, swinger, trans, whatever.
"i know my family is more accepting than the fellow stoners, skaters and dropouts ive been circled by the past 7 years"
Sounds like you already know some people around you will support you with this.
"I went to a therapist for a few months early this school year for depression but I hated the experience and am not enthused about possibly HAVING to go back to one in order to begin HRT, which Im focused primarily on"
If that is your main focus, be strong. Go through with it. Tough it out. If this is truly what you want to do, if this truly is your main, primary focus, go for it. And hopefully you'll get a better therapist dealing with your HRT than you did with your depression.
"Most of all though, I want to begin my transition and have no clue where to begin, diet? a doctors appointment? hygiene?"
Best thing to do is to try, even if it's in small increments, dress / appear how you feel. Even if it's in private, give yourself some time around the house to dress, to move, to behave the way you feel. Give yourself some time to see how it all feels to, for once, really give in and be this way. If you still feel so passionate about changing yourself, talk to a doctor and see what can be done.
Also, get yourself out of your ghetto. So what if you're only 16? That's old enough to start finding ways of making money with jobs in stores. You roll up your sleeves and work for what you want, and, given enough time, you'll reach your goals, you'll achieve what you want to, and you'll be in a much better place because of it.
Of course, this is just my 2 cent's worth for you.
Best of luck, and may you walk the path that makes you happy and content.
