I hate the the way I look when I want to be intimate with my husband. If you seen "Something about Mary", you know the scene with the naked old lady, well that is me flat and saggy. I use to be plump and full. I and being in a postion where the other excess flab changes when you are fooling around does not make mating very enjoyable. I look reall good with clothes on and I did not have any costmetic surgery to alter myself. It can be very depressing not feeling sexy naked. Wondering what my husband sees and how it might turn him off.

I am sorry, I did not mean to get on a tandrum. Is surgury the real answer to this problem? I am still very young and would like to look that way too a t least when I am naked. I have seen the cosmetic surgery that othe gastro bypass patients have had. I get freaked out that the doctor is going to tear my apart and tell me ther are more areas of ugliness to be repaired than what I am looking at. I don't know how I can handle that. Besids that , the idea of another surgery does not appeal some much now or the cost of my own personal vanity. Cappy

I've written grants, does anyone know how to write in the politically arena? We need to get something started. You know, alcoholics drink; however there are programs out there to help them recover and this isn't any different.

Hope to hear from you soon!

Dawnette