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08/16/2011 08:25 AM
Rosiemckvr
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Hi,

My Sister was a BIG alcoholic in her younger years & still drinks (sociable) but nothing like she did. I was just wondering, could her heavy drinking from back then..effect her ways of thinking/health today?

She's just very slow & years behind her age (learning disabled) to the point there's no common sense & a middle school student is smarter..and she's 52!

Sometimes I don't even want to be around her 'cause she dates a total drunk & I hate him & the situation (she drinks more too, then they fight, etc.)! She just doesn't get that & thinks I'm a Ms. Goody-2-Shoes! So Be It!

He's the only one she'll ever be with 'cause she likes telling him what he can & can't do! And him being a drunk doesn't care as long as he's kept, so they fit like keys!

I just wondered if the booze made them slow & dense permenantly? 'Cause I'm not taking care of her after she's lived it up & done her damage! I'll put her away!

I'm not giving up the rest of my life to slave after something she did on her own & had fun doing!

She & they should think of that!

Rosemary
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08/19/2011 02:30 PM  Top
Dit
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It would be hard to watch your sister be with the person she's with, an alcoholic. She could have some co-dependent issues and that's why she stays with this man. Her past heavy drinking i think could sometimes make her not think straight, she could be stunted emotionally if she drank heavy at a young age. You say she drinks socially, she may drink a lot more and you don't know it b/c maybe she drinks reasonably around others, idk tho, i could be wrong. Mentally she's staying in that same mind frame and being with an alcoholic boyfriend certainly doesn't help her mature. I'm not sure if what i shared here makes much sense, these are some of my thoughts.
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08/19/2011 02:44 PM  Top
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I agree with Dit...I am a recovering alcoholic and come from a family of alcoholics...I also am a former substace abuse counselor and psych nurse.
You are not drunk unless you have to hang on while lying on the floor.

08/22/2011 05:39 AM  Top
Rosiemckvr
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Hi guys,

I love your saying about hanging onto the floor Bang! LOL!

Yea, that explains alot & I'm sure she's doing more outta my sight than I might know figuring if she's buying him, she's enjoying it too! Grrr! He's already had a few seizures & went to the Hospital 'cause he hasn't/won't pay the bill! He won't even pay his fines (DUI) or work 'cause he'll have to pay support & taxes and they'll find him.

She pays everything so yea she enables him but she says she don't want him on the street & no one else wants this loser, not even his own functioning alcoholic family!

She threw him out again but he's calling from his brother's phone 2:00AM-4:00AM drunk & harrassing her when she has to work. Yea, he's a Prince. More like a Toad!

He always wanted to live in a rainy St. I may buy him a 1 way ticket to another State to get rid of him!

Hugs,

Rosie

08/25/2011 05:01 PM  Top
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Yes your sister may actaully have brain damage among other problems from drinking. Throw the toad in a swamp till he gets sober. It does not seem like he has any intentions of getting sober. Just try and give your sister the help she may need but do not enable her. I sugest you go to some alonon meetings and learn to deal with this problem.
You are not drunk unless you have to hang on while lying on the floor.

09/22/2011 04:41 AM  Top
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Yes, I believe so. Look at Ozzy (his might be from drugs too). Also, my dad's cousin's husband has been an alcoholic for 30 years and it's pathetic to see him. He can't speak right, he's slow in moving and he still reaks of alcohol. I feel bad for him. Sad
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