FM & kids -

I had quite a meltdown yesterday. My poor hubby had to lift my spirits. Long story short, I wasn't feeling well after a FULL day of running here there & everywhere. I was physically and emotionally done. Needless to say, I felt like I should rest my body so I could give to the family more later in the evening. My 12 yr old came in and criticized me for "not resting". I think because I wasn't laying down she didn't think I was resting. I tried to explain that resting can include sitting on the bed with a bunch of pillows and having my feet up. I don't think she got it. She was wanting me to take her to the store but I told her I couldn't since I didn't feel well. She continued in on me until I sent her to her room for being disrespectful.

Man - I feel so whipped sometimes that I really don't want to have to explain this pain to my kids! My 9yr old doesn't seem to judge me so maybe it's the whole hormone thing with my older daughter. LOL She really hurt my feelings. I thought I was safe here at home. I wish I didn't have to explain this to her ~ I really had hoped to protect my kids from seeing me in pain. I have told the girls before that it isn't something I am going to die from but that sometimes mommy needs to take care of her body. My daughter did apologize later but I still had hurt feelings. I am trying to let it go but I still feel a little unresolved.

Does anyone have any suggestions for helping kids to understand? Please help before I lose my mind.

leslie

Post edited by: TeainTN, at: 02/13/2008 09:36

There is a light at the end of the tunnel -- but it's a train about to run over you.

I try not to take things personally but it's hard. She knows which buttons of mine are the hot ones & she triggered them all yesterday. It was almost to the point where I was thinking either she had to go away for a while or I was going to. Not that I would EVER wish harm on her...I just needed some space. Is that bad? As I write this I feel like maybe I am the one that is in my own world. ARGH Somebody please wake me up from this bad dream already! I want the manual for raising a pre-teen! LOL

On a positive note, she did give me a really nice hug this am before going to school. Hopefully this afternoon will go better than the past 2 days. I guess I just have to remember that she is human and can't feel the pain. There will be times where she will get it and others where she doesn't.

Thanks for letting me ramble...guess I needed to. All of you are awesome! Thanks for being here for me when I need you the most!!!

leslie