sad newbie misses date

I was diagnosed with fibro 2 months ago after years of thinking I must be turning into a physical and mental freak!

I have GAD really bad and I sleep poorly, which makes me feel even worse.

It's been a really bad week (all the more worse with PMT) and just feel so sad today as I was supposed to be going on a first date with the most wonderful guy but I got too anxious last night and didn't sleep at all.

At 3am the nerve pain kicked in too - I get shooting nerve pains in certain areas and they happen every couple of minutes for 2 hours or 2 days sometimes and stop me sleeping. So I just cried and cried until it got light, then I texted this guy and said I was too unwell to meet.

I'm so upset because I can't see how I'll ever meet anyone as I get so wound up I can't sleep beforehand and any guy will just take one look at my tired eyes and run away. This guy seemed so right and now I've ruined it.

It's times like this I just wish I was dead because everything I ever look forward to is ruined and then I feel selfish because people out there have terminal illness and what right have I to complain.

Sorry - just wanted to get it off my chest

I wanted to let you know that you're not alone and I, personally know JUST how you feel. I was single and didn't think anyone would even look my direction. I was always in pain, always had anxiety (GAD) and many panic attacks. I was sick, tired and sick and tired of being sick and tired!!!! Then, I met him and we're now married!

I know with all that you have going through your head, you tend to not believe that this could be you...but it can and it will. But not until the time is right! I believe that everything happens for a reason and they do!

Is there any way you can get a reincheck from Mr. Right? How well do you know him...maybe he'll understand. It never hurts to try!

You're not being selfish...just because people can't see our pain doesn't mean we don't have it. We may not be terminally ill...but shoot...who cares!! We still suffer and we are still human beings so you DO have a right to complain. WE ALL DO!!

Please don't be sorry you 'vented'. Sometimes that is what we do the best here! So, please...feel free to vent, share, cry, laugh or whatever you need to do with us! We're here for each other and you'll never find a better group!

Keep your chin up and please...feel free to pm me anytime! I'm here for you and here for me!

{{{{Fibro Hugs}}}}

Post edited by: sweetheartsuzee, at: 04/05/2008 08:48

Can you ask your Doctor for something to help you sleep?

You are not alone! Gentle Hugs,Jean

If he really wants to go out with you he will be patient

((((HUGS))))

What a bummer huh? A chance for a date and it got taken from you. I'm sorry. Like Suzee said, maybe you can explain it to him and reschedule. If not, there'll be someone for you someday who'll understand and accept you just the way you are.

I too have the shooting pains and they hurt like hell. Do you have any pain meds? You need something for sleeping and the pain.

If you need to talk, feel free to PM me.

Soft & gentle hugs.

When you are having a bad day, one of us who is having an okay day, will be here to lift you up. If one of us is having a bad day, it might be you that makes all the difference.

I am getting help sleeping with Trazodone (it is a really old antidepressant that they find helps with sleep). I know a lot of people who have been successful. I had to find the right dose for me. It turns out that only 25mg (1/2 if a 50mg tablet) is perfect for me. I just take it and it helps me sleep more consistantly through the night. I still have my painfull night and nothing but a baseball bat is going to put me out.

As far as the man thing, I am with everyone else. At least you have put yourself out there to the point he is interested. I can't imagine talking to another single guy.

Hang in there, we're here!

HUGS!

Amy

We made up FM car magnet ribbons as a group. They are really nice. I have some extra at cost. They are $1.50 if you want one, just PM me. Thanks!

Thank you SO MUCH for your replies, hugs and support. I've been away for a a few days and not online since my post, so it was great to log on and find your wonderful replies. Makes me feel so much better to know I'm not alone.

No I'm not on any meds because I sometimes get sleep apnoea and I'm too afraid to take the sleep aids as it says not to take them if you have that.

I DID tell that guy about my problems, expecting never to hear from him again. After all, I thought, what kind of guy would want to meet me after I tell him I have anxiety and can't sleep. But amazingly he said something like that didn't worry him and he still felt the same

Still haven't met up as I've been away but I hope and pray with all my heart that I will be abl to sleep before the next attempt at a date.

You have all really encouraged me. Thank you so much! Will let you know how it goes

Maybe you could even just have him over for carry-out and a movie? Just a thought. Try and think of a date night that won't be stressful to you.

I'll be thinking about ya! And yes! Do let us know how things go.